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What is the custom of marriage in your country?

  1. supremeupbeat k profile image69
    supremeupbeat kposted 3 years ago

    What is the custom of marriage in your country?

    Specify your country,religion,community and say how it is processed.


  2. jlpark profile image83
    jlparkposted 3 years ago

    Marriage is pretty secular in my country, New Zealand.

    If you have a religion, or cultural tradition, that dictates how a marriage should be held, then you are free and welcome to have your marriage in that fashion. For example, the 3 days of celebration for some..i think it's Hindi (I could be wrong)...marriages - no worries, celebrate away.

    The only things that need to be followed are:
    1 - you need to have applied for the marriage licence 3 days prior
    2 - No co-ercion into marriage
    3 - you both need to be of legal age - 16.
    4 - you can't already be married
    5 - if you have been - you need to be divorced from the previous spouse. (No poly-marriages).
    Exception is - if you are changing your Civil Union to a Marriage (same-sex marriage has been legal since 2013, but CU's preceeded this) - and are marrying the person you have a Civil Union to - no need to divorced (if you are marrying a different person - you still need to divorce from the CU)

    We don't mind if you want to marry in a church, at a registry office, in a forest, at home, on a boat etc. Nor do we dictate how it should be done - aside from the above, and having a registered celebrant/clergy member perform the ceremony.

    1. supremeupbeat k profile image69
      supremeupbeat kposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      wah ! very well mannered marriage systems.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    U.SA.  - Over 52% of weddings take place between couples who cohabitated. Men propose most of the time. "Save the Date" notices are sent out to friends and family announcing the engagement and wedding date. (Usually  within 12 months of the wedding).
    Couples than go around checking out potential venues to host the wedding and or reception. Special invitations, flowers, and menu are selected. In Las Vegas a couple have a drive thru wedding.
    For the most part the groom is pushed aside as the wedding becomes mostly about (the bride) having her "fairytale" day.
    Our divorce rate hovers around 50% and (women) initiate 66% or 2/3rds of all divorce filings in the U.S. Divorced men tend to re-marry sooner than divorced women. It has been speculated that men discovered some benefits to being married and women come to appreciate the freedom that comes with being single.
    In my opinion the #1 cause for divorce is choosing the wrong mate for oneself. The #2 cause is getting married for the wrong reasons.
    In the first instance it's common for people to pursue relationships without figuring out who they are, what they want, or need in a mate. They tend to allow "happenstance" and "impulsive connections"  to dictate their relationship choices.
    In the second instance people have been known to get married because they had an "age goal", an ultimatum was given, an unplanned pregnancy, all of their friends were married, simply got tired of being classified as single in the eyes of the world, they met someone who had money and could offer them material things, or someone joined the military and is about to ship out.
    Even with a 50% divorce rate we still have a high rate of second and third marriages. In fact we average 2.3 Million weddings per year! That number is likely to rise with passage of marriage equality laws.

    1. supremeupbeat k profile image69
      supremeupbeat kposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Is divorce a sin or a social justice?
      Who is responsible for divorce- bride or groom?What do you think?