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   gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

   What makes some people happy, even fulfilled in always playing the passive and victim role in life?
   
   

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   Knogginposted 9 years ago

   For some it a form of persuasion and control, others I think it is more of a habit. Most of them see their actions as normal under their imagined circumstances.

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   Davorunnerposted 9 years ago

   I don't think playing the victim makes anyone feel fulfilled personally.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      There are people who use victimhood because they crave attention.  If they act/play the victim, others will be sympathetic towards and they, in essence, will get the ATTENTION/LOVE that they want!

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   Rod Marsdenposted 9 years ago

   Being passive means you don't have to do anything. Fighting back or finding a better path takes work even commitment. Being the victim there's always someone to blame for how you are and why life isn't or for that matter can't go your way. People can be so sympathetic for a time and that is something the victim can plug into. Much better to pull it all together, come up with a plan and go for something more positive. Me? I'm goal orientated. When I get the blues I work out a plan of action to get out of them even if its only taking a walk along a beach. My thoughts at any rate.

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   Beazleposted 9 years ago

   I don't know that "happy"  is the right word here,  rather "complacent"  or accustomed to.   There are probably a multitude of reasons,  but I have pondered upon this myself and I think one of the main reasons is people will continue to act as they are accustomed to acting,  sometimes even if change would be for the better.   Simply put,  going in a straight line even if it is straight to hell is easier than turning onto an unknown path.  A knowable bad outcome -- victimhood -- is preferred  to an uncertain improvement!   Trust me,  I have seen this with loved ones and I get it.   It's easier for someone to continue overeating and hating their body,  for example,  than getting fit and changing for the better,  because at least they KNOW the first feeling.  Sometimes even a change for the better is too terrifying.   It's about taking that leap of faith.   The mind works in insidious ways and an incest/rape victim will often become a porn star because the victim convinces her or himself that he or she in fact "chose"  that path!  So they get into dangerous situations because then they take over the "power"  of choosing to be hurt rather than "being"  hurt.   Also,  there are rewards for being passive or a victim even if we don't understand them.  Families are known to have a kind of consensus for one member to be sick,  and to subconsciously keep that member "sick"  because it won't screw up something they are used to.   So they will coddle the afflicted one,  because they feel better and the afflicted one doesn't disturb the status quo.  Kafka's story "The Cockroach"  and Tolstoy's Anna Karenina come to mind here.  It's about our mind controlling us in ways we couldn't even have imagined,  but the good news is,  one can get the power back simply by taking that next step,  however terrifying.

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   lone77starposted 9 years ago

   Ego powers all evil intent.
   
   Ego seeks to be right, always. As Rod Marsden said, being a victim gives you a scapegoat for all your woes. This makes it right to suffer.
   
   This is why the current Nanny, Socialist State of America is so dangerous. And this is why Americans, on average, were so easily manipulated by the False Flag 9/11 operation. Fear is far more easily manipulated than responsibility. In fact, we've become the Land of the Slave (unPatriot Act and more tyranny) and the Home of the Coward.
   
   In fact, if anyone takes 100% responsibility (not blame) for everything that happens to them, including the actions of others, then they can no longer be a victim.
   
   The picture of the evangelist preacher, above, is an interesting choice. Humility is good, but wallowing in it for show is not.
   
   Christ wanted us to be fearlessly confident, utterly humble, perfectly responsible and unconditionally loving without any self-concern. The preacher in the picture seems to have too much self-concern (Ego) which is the wrong direction.

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