What makes people from small families(1-2 children per family) less clannish, mo

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   What makes people from small families(1-2 children per family) less clannish, more open to varied
   
   open to outside people/relationships,& in general more liberal/universalistic than their counterparts in large families(6 and more children per family) who tend to be more clannish, less open to outside people/relationships, & conservative/traditional, even more insular and parochial in outlook and attitudes?
   
   

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   Kylyssaposted 10 years ago

   My guess would be that each child takes a lot of time, resources, and energy and, while two might not require twice what one does, it adds up and everything involved is finite.  Each child increases the amount of all three that is required.  All other responsibilities and relationships have and should have lower priorities than caring for one's children.  While many people are capable of multi-tasking there's a limit to how much a person can do so the time they do have is for immediate family. 
   
   There's also the fact that aligning schedules and providing transportation for more than five people when most of them can't drive or go places on their own can be difficult and time-consuming.  They could sink time into taking their children out and doing things with other people or they could just do things just with family and have more time to do them in.

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   kj forceposted 10 years ago

   gmwilliams...that is a very interesting question...I come from a large family, that years ago was clannish and then after the " matriarch " passed, it totally fell apart. She was the nucleus, that kept it together , thus I feel in every clannish group there has to be a leader. Respect is prevalent , When there are many children, there is a connection between them, someone to spend time with, share thoughts etc, they tend to rely on each other more. Whereas when there are 1-2 children they require more parental attention, thus perhaps jealousy is a factor between the siblings.
   To be honest my feelings are when the parents and grandparents have a healthy relationship families will not stray and fall by the wayside , regardless whether there are 1-2 or more children.
   Many of the problems in society today are " DYSFUNCTIONALITY " and not accepting responsibility for anything they do in any way shape or form.
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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   
   
   First of all, by sheer numbers, people from small families are more likely to reach out to non-related people, even considering them to be like family.  People from small families tend to associate more & have relationships with those who are non-blood related.  They also have the socioeconomic means to participate in activities which they meet & interface w/ people from different backgrounds.  Because they have a myriad of friends & associations from myriad, they tend to be more universalist & cosmopolitan in outlook.  It is not unusual for people from small families to  be liberal as they were exposed to varied cultural & intellectual activities in their formative years.
   
   People from large families are clannish & quite distrustful of others outside their family, even to their extended family.  Since there are a lot of them, they feel that they do not have to have friends nor associate with those outside their immediate family.  Because they have a myriad of siblings, they feel that it is unnecessary to fond any type of friendships w/ those not their siblings.  They also do not have monies to participate in intellectual & cultural activities so they do not encounter those who may have different perspectives & viewpoints.  In the average large family, the primary contact that children have is WITH EACH OTHER.  Such siblings opinions are familiar as they are raised with one construct, they adopt an extremely narrow, even parochial view of life.  They are also very insular, sticking to each other & seldom venturing outside the family circle.  The average person from a large family is quite narrow & conservative in his/her viewpoint as he/she was not exposed to any viewpoint nor purview outside of that of the immediate family circle.

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