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To those from small families(1-2 children per family), do you believe that peopl

  1. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago

    To those from small families(1-2 children per family), do you believe that people from large

    families (6 or more children per family) have an underlying animus toward you for one reason or another?

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  2. peachpurple profile image80
    peachpurpleposted 2 years ago

    big family members are like a pack of wolves, learning to defend themselves since young and don't really care about loyalty towards each other. They are always fighting among themselves to survive.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Ooooouch, you are so right.  People from large families think & act in packs. They have a herd mentality.You have seen this too? I have SEEN this from my maternal & paternal uncles & aunts. Oh, the humanity, the backstabbing, infighting..

    2. chuckandus6 profile image75
      chuckandus6posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I think there is a stereotype here.I know a few families with 6 or more children and they seem very well adjusted and caring towards one another, there was also a stereotype years ago that a single child wouldn't be able to be socialized or caring

    3. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, stereotypes do abound regarding small & large families.

  3. Kirsty O profile image84
    Kirsty Oposted 2 years ago

    Most of my friends growing up had siblings and were all very jealous of the fact that I didn't have to share my things with anyone or have annoying sisters stealing my clothes etc.

    Of course there are downsides to being an only child too, but I was happy overall being on my own.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      You three!  Wow, there seem to be a pattern of kids from large families hating on those from small families. It is just what I have stated in two of my hubs & have known all my life. OH NO, there is NO downsides to being an only child.

  4. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago

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    Yes, I have been witnessed to children/people from large families having a venomous jealousy,even animus toward those from small families.They hate  the fact that those from small families have better socioeconomic advantages while poverty, struggle,& want were their constant companions. Children from small families have better food, medical/health care, clothing,& other luxuries provided for by their parents while children from large families have to depend upon outside assistance in order to be socioeconomically afloat. It is not unusual for them to consume ill quality, processed food, wear cast off or second hand clothing, and receive very little or no health care.Such impoverished conditions make children from large families very envious when seeing how children from small families live. I have seen & witnessed this firsthand.Children from large families have an odious hatred for children from small families because the latter has the opportunities & lifestyle that the former pine for. That is why children from large families say that those from small families are spoilt because the latter do not live a lifestyle of abject poverty & want.

    People from large families also detest the fact that those from small families had parental love, care, & attention.Their parents were not involved in their formative years. They had to raise themselves &/or each other.It is so sad really.Their parents were parents in name only while parents in small families are ever involved & engaged in their children's lives.There is no normative parent-child relationships in large families, no such thing at all.   They see the close relationships that people from small families have w/ their parents & it sends them in an emotional, a psychological, if not psychic tailspin.   

    People from large families have none or very little sense of self. They were told that they as individuals count for nothing,it is the group that counts. They are merely a cog in the family machine. People from small families are told that & treated as if they COUNT. As a result of such treatment, they have a high sense of self. Well, if you were raised in a large family under abject financial, psychological even psychic conditions, you would HATE those from small families who HAVE all the opportunities you DON'T.
    My dear cousin, also an only child like me, eloquently elucidated that this hatred is just jealousy. People from large families always disliked those from small families overtly or covertly.

  5. Aime F profile image84
    Aime Fposted 2 years ago

    Not at all. In fact, the only large families I've ever known are all very close with one another and have expressed numerous times their appreciation for their siblings. I suppose I'm the opposite of this question - I was an only child and I'm jealous of those with siblings. I was as a child and I still am as an adult.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Aime, being an only child is a beautiful, womderful thing. Never apologize for being an only child.There is enough hatred and prejudice of only children by the sibling society,especially from those in large families. Be proud of your onliness.

    2. Aime F profile image84
      Aime Fposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I was a lonely child. I had lots of nice things but my parents worked a lot. I always longed for a sibling. My dad died when I was a teen and I'm all too aware of the fact that I will be out of close family once my mom dies. It's a personal thing. smile

    3. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I was an only child but never lonely.  My parents also worked but they were THERE for me. I also had XX friends and XXXXX cousins. I also enjoyed being alone.  There's nothing wrong w/being alone. Kids w/siblings WISHED they're alone. Be thankful!

    4. Aime F profile image84
      Aime Fposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Respectfully, don't tell me to be "thankful"; my feelings and experiences as an only child are as valid as anyone else's.

  6. tamarawilhite profile image90
    tamarawilhiteposted 2 years ago

    I've never seen this, and I have 2 kids and friends from only children to eight.

 
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