Why Do People Vent?
Why is it that when people vent they aren't looking for an opinion? I noticed this tendency from women. Women enjoy talking so much and only want to get whatever is on their minds, off their chest. I cannot seem to understand that. I always believed that people who vented were implying that they needed advice. What's the point of asking for help if you aren't asking for help? How is just talking helpful? It may help you realize (if you're smart enough) but if you weren't able to do that before you vented then you're asking for advice and denying that makes you a liar.
Not everyone need to vent, but if they do-- you can ignore it. Walk away, step aside.
Lots of things need vents-- cooking stoves, bathroom fans, chimneys. They all serve the useful purpose of letting noxious vapors dissipate and become harmless.
I agree - in my experience, when people vent, they aren't asking for your opinion or advice. Why do they do that? My guess is, they need a sympathetic ear, they're self-centered, they want the attention, they don't realize you might have valuable input to offer etc. Personally, I hate when people "use" me to vent.
I think it's only OK between close friends, with an understanding that this IS venting, and it's OK, I'm allowing you to do that, because we're friends. Anybody else - please find yourself another dumpster.
Do you really think men don't vent? That's rhetorical, I just wanted to get it off my chest.
I've always speculated that people who don't talk out what's on their mind, simply don't think a lot (have a lot on their minds). I vent often with my husband and don't want advice. I do it because my brain will occasionally get on overload where my thoughts race. The amount of thoughts that seem to happen simultaneously are over bearing. SO I spend 10 minutes spewing it all out to my husband, just to be able to release my worries (some people pray to do this).
On a side note my husband does it just as often.
Right, peeples! Your thoughts go on overload. You're overthinking, and cannot handle all those thoughts and/or possibilities at once. So you move the thoughts to someone else. There's a flaw in that. You still haven't figured out your problem!
Sometimes there is no solution. My thoughts go on overload because that is how my brain works. Always has been like that. No one can fix it. No advice will fix the problem. Venting is the band aid.
I'm sorry, peeples. I refuse to accept that! Where there's a will there's a way! You just have to try to think about it in a practical and efficient way!
Of course men will vent, I just said the tendency is stronger towards women, haha!
Oh there's a way, lol. It's called medication! Which has far more side effects than venting!
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