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I agree with you about keeping a distance with your bio dad. I myself could not handle that. It was probably best for you to do so. Thanks for your opinion.
It started with one lie, and it has been ongoing for 10 years. It is not my parents that I speak of, just to clarify. When a lie ruins the course of your life, I don't believe it is drastic. I tried to expand on the question, but it won't let me :)
I agree. We didn't choose our parents, and if it was someone else, we would not have a relationship with them. Civil if met in public, but otherwise no.
As an adult you have the right to (choose) whom you spend your time with. There are lots of instances of people who refuse to deal with "toxic" parents or family members. You're under no obligation to remain unhappy. It's your life! Take the wheel!
Thanks for your input. I personally don't understand lying, and why a parent would do that. I would not jeopardize any relationship with a lie.
I disagree. While this question was not about my parents, I did not speak to my mother for the last 4 years of her life. I do NOT regret it. She was such a negative and toxic person, I could no longer take it.
cloverleaffarm, I agree with you. Just because someone is a person's mother or father it does not give them a "free pass" to treat one like crap or bathe them in negativity. Life is difficult enough.
I agree with you 100%! I avoid dealing with toxic people period. Too often people feel stuck or obligated to put up with people and especially family members who treat them like crap. I remind them they get to (choose) who they spend time with. :-)
This lie was not directed to, or at me. I was trying to get opinions. Thanks so much for your input. Parenting is not easy, but for a parent to lie intentionally is rather sad.