Only son with bipolar disorder

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  1. Kulsum Mehmood profile image64
    Kulsum Mehmoodposted 6 years ago

    Is it wise for a single mother to send her only bipolar son to a foreign land for building a career and marriaige with a foreigner?

    1. peeples profile image93
      peeplesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      His bipolar really has nothing to do with it unless you are implying he is not capable of providing for himself.

    2. profile image0
      Motown2Chitownposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I'd give thought to a couple of things here.

      First, is his Bipolar Disorder well managed enough that he could leave home, pursue a career and a family in his home?  If so, why would it be necessary for him to go away to do so?  Also, if he goes to a foreign country, will he have family and friends there to support him?  If so, are they knowledgeable about his illness and capable of helping him through difficult times?

      Overall, he may have to make the decision on his own, if he's capable of doing so.

      But pray for wisdom, and peace especially.

      big_smile

      1. Kulsum Mehmood profile image64
        Kulsum Mehmoodposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks for the post Motown. I do have to answer these quiries first. His bipolar is managed with medication but problem is he cannot regularly remember to take his medicine all by himself. He needs to be under vigilence to make sure he takes the pills regularly. He needs support.

    3. Healthyannie profile image88
      Healthyannieposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Perhaps he will do well.  How old is he?
      Foreign countries and foreigners are not always negative.
      If his illness is managed he should do ok anywhere in the world - we have only got one world.  Why don't you go with him at first? Annie

      1. Kulsum Mehmood profile image64
        Kulsum Mehmoodposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        He is 32 yrs old annie. Thanks for your post.

    4. W Vidal profile image58
      W Vidalposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      What is foreign land?

      1. Kulsum Mehmood profile image64
        Kulsum Mehmoodposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Foreign country... Outside India.

        1. W Vidal profile image58
          W Vidalposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          What is India? Where is it?

  2. Christa Michelle profile image60
    Christa Michelleposted 6 years ago

    Pray about what you should do. God bless you and your son.

    1. Kulsum Mehmood profile image64
      Kulsum Mehmoodposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Christa.

      1. CASE1WORKER profile image64
        CASE1WORKERposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        If it is an arranged marriage, are the family trust worthy, does the bride have a good and caring nature? It might be too much for a young bride to cope with and would not be good for him. It is a difficult choice, I think if I were the mother I would take some time to think but more importanty as the man is 32 years old it must be his decision- I do hope all goes well

  3. CyclingFitness profile image93
    CyclingFitnessposted 6 years ago

    Case1worker makes a very good point.

    The other point I would raise is that would your son be accepted into the community and environment where he lives. Closeby where I live there is sadly a lot of underlying racism within the community with people believing the welfare systems should not be supporting foreigners- that is something your son could have potential difficulty dealing with.

    1. Kulsum Mehmood profile image64
      Kulsum Mehmoodposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for the post CyclingFitness.

    2. Kulsum Mehmood profile image64
      Kulsum Mehmoodposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Actually the bride's family is from our community and they have migrated to US. We know them.

  4. Backwater Sage profile image57
    Backwater Sageposted 6 years ago

    I don't know, but I think it is worth a try for him. Those of us who are not "normal" need to learn how to cope. He is full grown now, and a man must walk out his destiny. Sometimes a good wife is the key to success for a man.

    I will join you and the others who will lift him up in prayer . . . you, too . . . so you won't be lonely.  I am sorry that I can't be of more help.

    1. Kulsum Mehmood profile image64
      Kulsum Mehmoodposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Bachwater Sage.

  5. pisean282311 profile image60
    pisean282311posted 6 years ago

    @kulsum honestly i dont think forum is place to get ur answer...it would be opinions...ask expert on this...i get and fully understand that it is critical decision for u and u should rely of experts for it ...

    1. Kulsum Mehmood profile image64
      Kulsum Mehmoodposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you pisean for your suggestion. I do think you are right. Actually I have decided to maintain a status quo on this and allow some time to go by before making a final decision on it.With time the picture would become clear and God will give me some insight. Also as you have suggested I will talk to his doctor and get his expert councel and advice. Thanks again.

      1. EGAD Call profile image60
        EGAD Callposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        There are no experts on this subject, doctors included.

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