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  1. Pastor Q profile image54
    Pastor Qposted 8 years ago


    All of us at some point or another have went through some kind of ordeal or situation that have caused us to Mature in one way or another. But my question tonight is why does it take an ordeal for us to change? Maturity derives from the word Mature. A child may throw dirt at another child for fun until he or she is caught, scolded or reprimanded, and then taught to receive and give forgiveness. Very rarely will you catch that child doing that act again because he or she know the consequences for their actions. They have matured! A dog may urinate all over the house but when it is caught, scolded or reprimanded, and taught where to relieve itself of its pressure so that it will not be scolded, it Matures and await its master to open the door or take it outside. Don't believe me only, look up the word Mature: 1: based on slow careful consideration mature judgment>2 a (1): having completed natural growth and development.(2): having undergone maturation b: having attained a final or desired state. c: having achieved a low but stable growth rate.So again I ask, why do we need some kind of ordeal before we change? Pride. It kills us! It makes our self importance amazingly too high. It causes us to do things and say things that are uncommon and for every action there is a reaction. Pride can be good: 1: the quality or state of being proud: as a: inordinate self-esteem. b: a reasonable or justifiable self-respect c: delight or elation arising from some act, possession, or relationship. But here is the definition that usually fits as it pertains to relationships and love: 2: proud or disdainful behavior or treatment : disdain.Now, my sisters full of emotions (YES, I SAID IT), right now I want to talk to my brothers. Do you really want to know why our best and brightest sisters act as if they are sooo independent and so secluded, why they act stuck up, snotty, like they can open their own door, pay for their own tabs and cabs, buy their own drinks (shouldn't be drinking alcohol), their own cars, their own houses, clothes, pay their own rent, go on vacation by themselves, be their own bosses etc. etc? It is because (and this is your last websters word of the day) we, the brothers have done what: Neglected our sisters. The word Neglected derives from the word Neglect which means: 1 : to give little attention or respect to : disregard 2 : to leave undone or unattended to especially through carelessness. I believe some of you when you say you did not intentionally neglect your spouse or significant other. I believe some of you when you say I was incredibly busy and it slipped my mind that we had things scheduled or even if not scheduled, in your mind to do. I believe some of you when you say I was tired and I assumed my significant other or my wife would understand. I believe that you really believed that those special days i.e: valentines, birthdays, christmas, anniversaries, the day we first met etc... were just days and you really don't want to get caught up in the day. I believe that you really work hard as &*$@ (means:you say you do - you all thought I was going to say hell) and you feel your woman should at the least be thankful and appreciative for all you do. I know all of it and I believe it fellas because as I wrote this I remembered not even...2long ago (Ha!) this was me, and my wife was my punching bag as she liked to say it. She absorbed all of my blows to her body, to her mind, and to her soul and she took it like a champ. But here is something that I had to learn through extreme measures and I pray my brothers that you will receive it with love. LOVE DOESN'T HEAR EXCUSES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

    Being neglected is harder than never having had someone to love because someone who has never had someone to love has not experienced that love and then have someone take it away or become neglected. You know men, God is wonderful! He has given us chance after chance. He (God) or She (your spouse or significant other) has caught you slipping, He/she scolded you or reprimanded you by telling you that you don't do what you use to do, and you have been given a chance to avoid an Ordeal. How? I'm glad you asked, by correcting your mishaps before something drastic takes place to force you to remember. God, infinite in Wisdom has given us every single thing to curb a woman's appetite for attention at our disposal. He has given us the roses to send on her job and make her happy (you can send them to her home but woman want to know they are loved outdoors amongst others not just indoors under covers). God has given us Cards from gifted poetic writers or even internet cards created by you (I still love you, do you still love me, yes or no?). He has given us the parks and playgrounds to walk, talk, park and dare I say even play around on the ground (yes, the Pastor said it!) God has given us oceans and beaches for...(I don't have time to be a teacher). God has given us open passage to other countries to take our spouses into something new and create a different pattern of thinking. Men, God has created the show "Animal Kingdom" so that we can watch the animals produce love and apply it to our lives (if you don't believe that, watch it sometimes. Some of it will amaze you). Last but not least, your bedroom is a great place for love but God knowing that women sometimes want something new and different invented long ago these units called "Hotels" not motels (don't be sleezy men) for that change of pace that is required by our woman. Now, if you are not married, don't place yourselves in situations which may cause you to sin (don't be mad, I'm a Pastor. I have to tell it like the Bible says), but also never neglect the things you did when you first met her. Men, here is the greatest weapon I can give you about your woman: She Is Counting On You To Keep Her Happy! Never forget that. And you know the old addage; if mommas happy, everybodies happy. I am a learned man and I am/was first partaker of this message and my prayer is that this message will reach the nations because if we could just practice these simple truths, the United States divorce rate would decrease tremendously.

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      shreekrishnaposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      try to write in short paras or short content.
      like i am writing.

      so that hubbers can read it.

    2. Eaglekiwi profile image80
      Eaglekiwiposted 8 years agoin reply to this
  2. artificialhaze profile image56
    artificialhazeposted 8 years ago

    I agree with the other reply, too much information for this, it looks more like a blog... but maturity is something that comes with time and change.  When drastic events occur, usually the true colors of people come out, and how they deal with the situation with either hinder or help their maturity.

  3. Gordon Hamilton profile image98
    Gordon Hamiltonposted 8 years ago

    Yes, above all else, please learn some paragraph structure.

    Secondly, around the dog learning not to urinate in the kitchen, do you collect them from homes and formally educate them not to do so? I would be extremely interested in this service at the moment if you are offering it in the Glasgow area of Scotland...???