Does anyone believe that teenagers can be in a durable relationship?
I am a young girl and all my friends are calling me a kid because I told them ,teenagers don't really knows what love is, if they knew they would not be changing boyfriends every month ,and that is why I will wait till I get older to get a boyfriend.
Hmm. First, good for you for knowing what you want and having the maturity to wait until you feel you're ready. You're absolutely right that it's common for teenagers to think they're in love when really it's lust and excitement. Most teens jump from relationship to relationship.
That said, I do think it's possible for some teens to truly have a long-lasting, "durable" relationship. Why? Because some adults lack the maturity to do so. Therefore it stands to reason that age does not equal maturity. So certain teens must be capable of being mature enough to work out a respectful, loving relationship.
There are some teenagers that can be in valuable relationships that turn into a good marriage. I have known a couple that became engaged at 18 and married at 19. For the past five years, they have graduated with their bachelors, he is going for his master's, and she is working full-time. However, these results can only happen with responsible and emotionally grounded teenagers, which is exceedingly rare. Couples who make it at this age do not try a new flavor of the month or the year. They have long term goals, realistic expectations of life, etc.
Every individual possesses the ability to "Fall in Love" at a different rate based on self-imposed & externally challenging rules. My wife and I fell in love at the age of 14 & now have been together in friendship, love, and marriage a total of 54 years.
Serving each other with full love & respect requires the teenage individual to have achieved the adult wisdom for their future.
It is an incredible life that can achieve this because it creates the most beautiful life that can be created upon the earth.
Under God's leadership, my wife & I have both achieved such wisdom & lglory. It is through God's pathway that we will always have that very loving feeling every moment of every day that we are on this earth.
We have found that our love was created by being wise about the moral path that others declined to acknowledge. It is the specifications of the Christian lifestyle that shielded us from the evil that others have had to withstand.
For it is written:
1 Corinthians 13 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
13 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part; 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away. 11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known. 13 But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.
My wife & I use this as our love foundation
It depends on the teenagers. Some are more mature than others and really do know what love is. Hopping from one relationship to another is proof they don't know the definition of love. I do know people who started their relationships in high school, never dated anyone else, and are happily married today. My little brother is a good example. He and my sis-in-law (who just happened to be my best friend) started dating as sophomores in high school and have now been married for almost thirty years.
I'm glad you spoke your mind regardless of what your friends think and if you choose to wait till your older that's a wise decision . I do believe that there are teens who actually do fall in love which is something words can't even define. But yes i agree your friends don't know what love is if all they do is switch boyfriends . stick to your choice of waiting it's a wise one .
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