How many kids do you want?

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   kerrygposted 14 years ago

   Three questions:
   
   1. If money were no object and birth control worked perfectly so all pregnancies were planned/wanted, how many kids would you have?
   
   2. Do you currently have or plan to have more or fewer children than you want?
   
   3. Did the number of children you want change after you had your first child?
   
   Personally, I have one biological child and one ward. Before I had kids, I wanted 2 or 3. Now I'm more inclined to leave it at one, or have one more maximum. (Mostly due to PPD issues.)

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      LondonGirlposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      1. Either 2 or 3
      
      2. Yes - only one now
      
      3. No. I never wanted to have an only child
      
      What's PPD?

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         kerrygposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Post partum depression.
         
         Not fun. Not eager to go through it again.

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            LondonGirlposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Ah, been there, done that, got the T-shirt. But we call it post-natal depression, or PND.

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               Davinagirl3posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               I suffer from depression and went off my meds during my pregnancy.  I was miserable throughout my pregnancy.  I love my daughter, but I did not love being pregnant.

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      JYOTI KOTHARIposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      We have one and satisfied.
      Jyoti Kothari

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   1. Providing money is not a problem, at least one with every other woman I ever met. Probably counts in thousands
   
   2. No, they just happen
   
   3. Can't really recall, it was too long ago

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   kmackey32posted 14 years ago

   If I have the money I would have my tubes reversed and have at least one more!

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   Beth100posted 14 years ago

   For those who know me, this is quite funny...
   1.  originally a dozen (which I have achieved between my biological and step children);
   2.  nah, it's time for the grandchildren to roll in (number one arrived two years ago);
   3.  nope.  I love kids and always will! 
   
   I couldn't be happier! 

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      kerrygposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      LOL, you remind me of my mom. She originally wanted ten, later revised it down to four, and had to settle for three in the end. Unfortunately, she's getting cheated on grandchildren too. Both my siblings are convinced they don't want kids! (Though they're both only in their early and mid 20's, so there's plenty of time to change their minds.)

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   Mac Missionposted 14 years ago

   I have one. I like to have one more now.

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   Research Analystposted 14 years ago

   I have always thought that having 12 kids would be a good number.

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   Davinagirl3posted 14 years ago

   I have one daughter and my issue with not having more than one more is not money, it is my age.  I don't want to be 40 and pregnant.  I plan to have two kids, total.  After I had my daughter, for just an instant, I wanted many more.  But, reality kicked in, and I realized my limitations.

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      Ambitionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      yes i heard that many 40+ women are really resistant of becoming pregnant again.

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   Lady_Eposted 14 years ago

   One - for now.

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      fierycjposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Shouldn't we talk about this first.

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         Lady_Eposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Lol. How many goals were you thinking of scoring? and while we're at it (well, not that). I mean, on the subject. Lol. Did you read my hub on a "Threesome" published today?

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   cindyvineposted 14 years ago

   I was quite upset the other week when the gynie told me that I was still far from menopause!  Am hanging out for the day when I start to get hot flashes!

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    ngurecoposted 14 years ago

    Unfortunately they are telling us the limiting factors to the number of children is not just money but also the availability of natural resources such as water and energy.
    
    And in my country here we do not count children like you would to cattle.

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    Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

    I never wanted a big crowd, and I did want them spaced enough so I could give each plenty of individual attention in the first four years or so.
    
    I started with an adopted infant (for reasons other than fertility problems).  Five years later I had his little brother.  To me, my "little set of two little boys" was perfect; although I enjoyed them so much we went for a third child.  Three little boys would great, but adding a little girl would be perfect.      I had my daughter, and to this day feel like my family is perfect for me.  I considered that it may be nice for her to have a sister (after all I'd only delivered two), but I didn't want to make a career out of having babies. 

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