Do you feel it's ok to yell and coach your child from the sidelines?

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  1. David78 profile image76
    David78posted 9 years ago

    Do you feel it's ok to yell and coach your child from the sidelines?

    My son is on a 2nd grade basketball team and I'm a hard nose dad.  I tend to yell and coach him from the side lines.  I'm very animated so the least.  I'm not the coach of the team btw.

  2. profile image56
    rieomposted 9 years ago

    No this will put pressure on your child that they are too young to handle.  Sports should be fun and not played to boost the "that is my son" dad.  I have been at games of soccer where parents litterally run with the team but from the sidelines shouting at their child to do this or do that.  You can do teaching at home to improve their play.

  3. Patty Inglish, MS profile image92
    Patty Inglish, MSposted 9 years ago

    I can't allow it during free sparring sessions and some tournaments doinlt allow it, because kids could get distracted by a parent's yell and turn just in time to get royally hit. During some other drills like kicking races, yeah, it's good.

    Basketball? Depends on the age of players I think. We have a suburb where parents bet money on 2- and 3-year-olds' sports events and it gets pretty ugly, while lots of kids cry and quit.

  4. Mbshine profile image59
    Mbshineposted 9 years ago

    For heaven's sake these are kids and most coaches and referees and judges are unpaid volunteers. As a former ref I think normal cheering for teams and great plays are part of the excitement. When the yells get personal or vicious  or profane it is time to eject the parents. The worst of all is a parent who loves their kid and wants to root them on...but..and this is important...the parent never actually played the sport involved...and really and truly in their heart of hearts does not understand the basic rules or strategies of the game...they make fools of themselves and subject their kids to ridicule from other players and parents...on a related issue...I had three kids who often had games at the same time in  different locations...I refused to ever, ever, ever be a coach or asst coach of my own children. Lots of kids don;t have dads around, and I explained to my kids "Daddy will be at your games whenever possible, but remember sometimes I will be helping other kids as a ref or a coach the same way other parents have volunteered to help you." In reality I attended and cheered lots of track meets and sporting events at all levels....but sometimes I cringed...and so did the kids..when their parents bordered on rude and abusive the TV show says:  CURB YOUR ENTHUSIASM

  5. MayG profile image91
    MayGposted 9 years ago

    I think it depends on a) your tone of voice and b) what it is that you're yelling.  If it's just a bit of encouragement, for example 'Yeah, well done, you're going great etc.. ' that's one thing, but sometimes telling your kids what to do eg.  'Try harder, throw it further, get in there,' etc can have a very discouraging effect.  It's also important that your remarks are not disparaging to your child, or to other players and coaches.   I would leave the coaching to the coach during games, and perhaps save your input for when you are just playing with him on your own?  I have a son who is probably around your son's age and most parents I know would agree that winning/losing, even your child's skill level is not as important as your son being part of a team.  You need to let your son's coach do his job.  I think the parent's job at sporting events is just to be a supportive and encouraging parent - not just to your own child, but to all the children playing.


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