What advice can you give my pal about his daughter?

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   tom hellertposted 14 years ago

   What advice can you give my pal about his daughter?
   
   OK- m"my pal" has a problem- HHIS DAUGHTER IS IN HER MID TEENS-Wait there is more-SHE HAS BASICALLY BEEN "ENCOURAGED" by her mothers husband to stay away from her biological father . sHE AND HER DAD HAVE ALWAYS BEEN VERY CLOSE AND IT IS BREAKING HIS HEART THAT SHE HAS BASICALLY BEEN REPROGRAMMED BY HER MOM AND EVIL ARROGANT, POMPOUS, LIAR, JACK-ASS OF A STEP FATHER PINHEAD BUT, IT GOT WORSE  A few years ago when she got into HS. their brainwashing and outright lies about her REAL DAD are scandelous and they break a court orderspecifically prohibiting it- but her mom and step-hole don't care th

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   Dawn Conklinposted 14 years ago

   It can be very difficult in a situation like this! I know as I have a constant battle with my ex.  He is always trying to turn my oldest daughter against me and my household.  Is it a court order to see her that they are violating? A court order can be enforced by a police officer (at least in the US, I am not sure if you are in the US.)  He needs to be strong, see his daughter and show her how he cares about her.  He can't say anything about her Mom to her, the Mom will look like the bad guy by talking about the father to her.  I try to not talk about her Father when she is with me.  He needs to show his daughter that what she has been told about him is not true.  She will see through it as long as he is there for her.  I cannot guarantee how long it will take   Best thing tho is be strong, don't bad mouth the Mom and Step dad and always be there for his daughter.  It may be hard to not bad mouth the other household but trust me, it does no good on a relationship with your child to get them in the middle.

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   lburmasterposted 14 years ago

   There isn't much he can do. He can attempt to be the best father. Divorce normally leads to the parents fighting over the child. They give the child so many presents, attempting to be the best. It is up to his daughter to choose who she agrees with. Normally she will choose who she spends the most time with and connects with the most.

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   CharlieNikholeposted 14 years ago

   I went through this with my parents, My mother didn't allow me to see my father as much as I wanted to and I was always told terrible things about my dad and eventually I let it get to me. I wouldn't speak to him or see him but he never gave up. He took me to a movie once a month, just him and I. Took me to play Ice hockey (it was our sport) and he took my brother and I out to eat/or to his house to eat dinner at least twice a month. My dad never stopped trying to be there for me. He would text me every night to tell me he loved me and that I would always be his baby girl. My dad is my best friend, my mom and I are close to but my father is my best friend. I didn't understand what my mom was doing until I was an adult and moved out. But my advice for your friend, coming from a daughter who was in the same position, never let her forget that she is his pride and joy, his princess, his everything. A girl is never to old to be daddy's princess and she is never to old to hear "I love you". I am on my own and married and I still have daddy daughter time and he'll even send a "I love you and I am proud of you" text here and there.

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