I was raised by a single parent and although we struggled a lot financially, our realtionship is very strong.
A child flourishes most in the arms of two loving parents. They learn about relationships, compromise, and team work. I am a single parent now learning how to carry my child thru the grief of loosing a father figure. I have been a single parent before and am the product of a single parent. There is nothing wrong with raising a child on your own if you have to. Raising them alone is better than compromising for a fruitless or harmful relationship which causes more negative affects in the child.
I have found that single parent children tend to be strong and sometimes overly independent. Witnessing their parents do it all on their own often causes the 'do it yourself' attitude to become normal. Too much independents often contributes to control issues which can make relationships a little difficult.
One of the biggest benefits I've found being a single parent, is just knowing that everything that I plan for my child I have full say on it. I can also teach my child my values and not argue with my partner.
You can raise the child just the way you want to. There are no conflict of choices.
The first thing that comes to mind is the ability to be myself with my daughter as her father had the tendency to control those around him, which ultimately affected my behavior and the natural flow of things. The behavior, of which I speak, is negative; and not something I wish for my child to witness. Suffice to say, we brought out the worst in each other. Although it was a difficult choice, I believe the greatest gift I can give her is my true self; and I feel we have a greater bond because of the decision I made. Sadly, it is very difficult for her to be shuffling back-and-forth between homes; however, I hope she will come to understand one day that not only did I do it for her or me - I did it for us.
I have to say the benefit that comes to mind immediately is the calm. I have a pretty excitable 2 year old and using 'busy' to describe her is an understatement! though life can be hectic, the best part is the quiet times. Call it vibes, cycles, or lulls but we click. When mommy is calm and relaxed she tends to take the hint. She enjoys it just as much as me. When you have another person's moods to factor into the equation it can become a bit troublesome. As a single parent, your mood is the only mood to deal with and honestly it benefits the child as well.
No moods, no arguing, no one pitching one parent off against the other. A calm household where there's no ambiguity over the rules and who sets them. Waking in the morning knowing I'm responsible for my own happiness and no grumpy partner is going to spoil my day. Being free to do what we want without explanation or negotiations. Living the life I want for my family and I, not one that's imposed or stifled. No fear, no atmosphere, no resentment....
Need I say more?
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