Is it good to teach a child not to retaliate when she is abused in the her class

Jump to Last Post 1-4 of 4 discussions (4 posts)
  1. satviki profile image57
    satvikiposted 7 years ago

    Is it good to teach a child not to retaliate when she is abused in the her class by her classmates ?

    How helpful do you think to teach a child about not to retaliate when she is abused in the her class by her classmates? In today's world,is it makes any sense to teach a child to sit back and complain about the abuse to the class teacher?

  2. William Gerace profile image63
    William Geraceposted 7 years ago

    Well as a former educator I must say I really don't recommend telling children to fight back and it's not because I want kids to take abuse. There are reasons for this mainly if a child retaliates against another all it does is encourage more violence and often the child will have disciplinary action taken against them which could include loss of recess, a parent teacher conference or even in or out house suspension. That being said there are some things that you can do. My sister a parent of 5 children has done a few of these things with her children. See we live in Philadelphia so you can imagine how turbulent the schools are here. In fact the school my sister's children go to is quite disruptive. She had been up to the school many times demanding action and in one case a boy even inappropriately touched my niece. What she did and what you can do is if you aren't receiving satisfaction from the classroom teacher then request a one on one conference with the teacher stating your concerns. I would keep a log of who is bothering your child with dates and times so you can share this with the teacher and this will also be a documented record of what's going on. I did this all the time when I worked in the classroom that way when meetings arose I could point dates and times and action I have taken with a particular student's behavior. If this meeting proves unsuccessful by any means meet with the counselor at the school. The counselor should have some resourceful information for you as well. Some schools even receive funding to have teams for Bullying so you should check this out as well as peer mediation another excellent resource when students don't get along. If you have exhausted your resources with the teacher, counselor, peer meditation, and Bullying Prevention Team then your next conference should be with the school's administrator preferably the Principal or Vice Principal. If nothing comes of this take it to the local District Office. Every school is overseen by main headquarters or a District Office. Find out who is above the schools superiors when the steps here don't work. I hope this helps if you have any more questions feel free to ask me. Thanks again. Great question by the way.

  3. lmarsh1203 profile image60
    lmarsh1203posted 7 years ago

    My mom always told me that I couldn't start the fight, but I could end it. She didn't want me to provoke violence but she wanted me to know I wouldn't get in trouble for protecting myself. I hope that helps.

  4. Virtual Treasures profile image60
    Virtual Treasuresposted 7 years ago

    Bullying is such a huge problem today, it's difficult to know the right answer.  I think it is important to teach a child they can stand up to bullies, and give them the tools they need to understand how to deal with the bullying.  I don't think it is appropriate to teach them to retaliate.  I think it causes too many additional problems.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)