What Is The Best Advice On How To Help A Child Deal With A Bully?

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   PhoenixVposted 13 years ago

   What Is The Best Advice On How To Help A Child Deal With A Bully?
   
   What advice or tips would you suggest on what a child should do when dealing with a bully in their lives or at school?

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   GoodLadyposted 13 years ago

   SO hard.  Bullies exist after school too don't they?   I think we have to get used to them.  I think we possibly begin to learn how to live with them in our lives at school. 
   You can't try to 'get even'.  You'll lose!  So the only other option is to learn that bullies have to win.  You let them.  You suggest the child gets on with people he/she like, doing things they like.  If the bully gets into this, then it just hurts.  When it hurts, it hurts but it doesn't kill.
   Just let them go on being bullies, let them wear themselves out.  No response.  But especially no self-righteous response!
   It seems such useless advice, but thinking back on being a child and on life I realize one never wins against a bully, until 'something' happens to 'even things out' when there is some sort of justice (at some point).
   I think life is about living with who we have around us, in situations we find ourselves in, and getting on with what we are supposed to be doing.  The rest isn't up to us is it?

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   Khal Blogoposted 13 years ago

   Tell him to fight hard every time, otherwise it will only get worse. If he puts up a fight even if he loses, eventually the bully will realize he would have an easier time with somebody lower down in the food chain.

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   hobbynobposted 13 years ago

   I think these days you have to train kids to stand up for themselves. Bullying is no less than an epidemic in schools. But the schools themselves need to have a safe "whistle blower" atmosphere to take care of bullies and keep them away from their victims.
   
   So every time, a child needs to stand up for him or herself, even if it's difficult at first. Bullies look for easy targets. However, when a bully is actually physically dangerous that is a tough situation that needs to be handled better by school disciplinarians and the authorities. There needs to be hair-trigger penalties for students who show violent tendencies toward weaker students.

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   Nonala Gaucheposted 13 years ago

   The child should fight back. Part of growing up is learning how to stand up to bullies.  If the bully is a gang member or has a weapon, run like hell.

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