Should parents keep children out of their bedroom? Why or why not?

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   Caitlin Pyleposted 12 years ago

   Should parents keep children out of their bedroom? Why or why not?

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   Keeley Sheaposted 12 years ago

   I would love to hear some answers to this question.  I am learning a lot about boundaries with my children, which I am trying to be better at setting.  I have always had an open door policy so to speak, in fact it wasn't till two years or so ago that I stopped letting my children sleep in my bed, however, my boyfriend likes the door closed and expects a knock on the door before entering, and likes to limit the time that my children and his children are allowed in the bedroom.  Unfortunately this is not really an answer just letting you know it is a great question and I look forward to other's answers.

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   hobbynobposted 12 years ago

   I think it depends on how "interesting" your bedroom is and how much medication, etc., you keep around. In most cases, the kids could be welcome, I think, because it gives kids a sense of safety when they are scared and there are times they need to be near mom and dad. We let the kids watch cartoons at the foot of the bed on Saturday morning. Why not? We get to sleep in a little (or rest-in, as it were).

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   YvetteParkerposted 12 years ago

   Parents should not keep children out to their bedrooms, but they should definitely set boundaries so that children know when it's appropriate to enter and when it's not.

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   No, I don't think children should be kept out of a parents bedroom.  I just think they need to learn to respect a closed door and knock before entering if that door is closed.

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   Tams Rposted 12 years ago

   I think children should not be allowed in their parent's rooms without an invitation. They should be aware that if they need their parent while they are in their room that they are welcome to knock on the door and wait for an answer to come inside unless it is an absolute emergency.

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   Caitlin Pyleposted 12 years ago

   I don't even have kids yet, but I thought it was an interesting question because since I DON'T have kids yet, I only have my marriage to value at the moment. I've always learned that putting the marriage first is the best thing for the kids and that is why I currently think that children shouldn't be allowed in the bedroom unless it is an emergency (although I imagine to a 7 year old a lot of things can be emergencies, lol...) Some place in the house should be sacred when you have kids in every nook and cranny of your life. There should be some location where a husband and wife (note: not just a Mom and Dad) can have space to themselves to nurture and reconnect. I think a lot of marriages get lost when they buy into the belief that kids need to come first. Kids need to know that the world doesn't revolve around them AND also see that their parents love and value one another. It's how they will learn what a good marriage looks like.

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   algarveviewposted 12 years ago

   I think it much depends on the kids age. From a certain age on I think it's necessary to establish boundaries, like can't go in without knocking, etc, it's a matter of privacy, because parents also need privacy and kids need to be taught about it. But when they are little it's different, my kids are almost four and we just keep our door wide open so they can come in whenever they want, if they feel scared, if they wake up, etc. But nonetheless we've always taught them that their room is theirs and ours is ours, that is, it's okay to come into our room, but it's not theirs. Also, they always sleep in their own beds, our bed is our bed, it's our place. And believe when I say they tried their best to move into ours several times...

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   kdawsonposted 12 years ago

   I don't think so.  My first wife was from Thailand were children usually sleep with their parents.  My son, now nearly thirty, slept with us until he was five.  I've seen no damage in him.  Of course she and I were both liberal people with a 70's attitude.

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    Monisajdaposted 12 years ago

    We have an open door policy. I can't imagine locking myself away from my children and making my bedroom a taboo place for them. Any intimacy between me and my husband waits till everyone else is asleep and there has never been any problem with that. Children are welcome to snuggle with us in our bed.

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       Bennymposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       That is all well and good until your kids turm into teenagers and wont go to sleep until late at night. Then where's your intimacy time!  As adults we need a private sanctuary an what better place than your own bedroom?

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