Do you find it hard to forgive?
Are you the kind of people who forget quickly the harm that was done to them? Can you have a natural relationship with those who hurt you as no harm was caused? How do you do to keep high your ability to forgive?
Not these days. When I was younger, I did. I have had problem people in my life for years. A few years ago, I decided to let most of them go. I forgave them and myself for letting a relationship fester and spew negativity. And I let them go. I realized that one can forgive hurt feelings but not necessarily maintain a relationship with the person who hurt them. We can wish a person well and not wish them harm and still chose not to have them in our lives. Katrina helped me a lot with all that. It was a time for letting go. We are not obligated to keep anyone as a friend who does not bring us joy.
Nooo. Haha I don't like it, but I'm a big grudge holder. If someone does something bad to me, then it just bugs me for years. I don't act like it but... yeah.
I have come along way. There was a time I could not and did not try to forgive. After getting saved , through prayer it has become much easier.
It's a lot easier to forgive than it is to forget. I have forgiven a lot, but I've never forgotten!
I try to look for the best in people. But, if you wrong me once shame on you, if you wrong me twice, shame on me!
Being a Christian definitely makes it easier to forgive, but unfortunately, some people commit the same sins time and again and don't learn from their mistakes. That makes it difficult to forgive. You can only hear "I'm sorry" so many times. If a change isn't made, then the words mean nothing.
I hold grudges big time! When my feelings are hurt, I find it really difficult to forgive and forget. I might eventually forgive, but never forget. I hate aggravation, so I don't dwell on bad things that had been done to me. I get up, dust myself, and move on. But I never forget.
I don't feel hard at all if I feel that the other person is really sorry for what he/she did-- we all make mistakes. We should encourage the ones who like to do good deeds and vice versa. Treating both types the same way would be a bit unfair to the good ones.
It is for me and believe the same with most of us and also feel that we forgive people only when we think he would be useful for us in future.
I find it hard to forgive, but even harder to forget... I do forgive, but there is always that little bug there. I wish I was different that way, life would be much simpler. Now, currently, I'm actually trying to change that about me, so let's see how it goes.
i don't find it hard, i find it foolish. i never forgive for something that is serious and i don't want to change that. for little things, i don't care.
by youmeget 8 years ago
What wrong do you find very difficult to forgive?
by Shil1978 7 years ago
If You Forgive, Can You Truly Forget?
by est-1991 4 years ago
Why is it so hard to forgive???
by Steven Escareno 8 years ago
In a relationship, we're all prone to making mistakes. Some mistakes are often bigger than others. however, i would like to ask all of you, what's the importance of forgiveness in a relationship?
by Smikle 8 years ago
how hard is it to truly forgive and forget what someone who you love hurts you? forgiveness iseasy,when we jus say am sorry without affection or meaning it, doing this the hurt still lingers and it becomes hard for you to move away from the hurt that youv'e been cause by that person. so how do we...
by These eyes 4 months ago
Why do men hurt the person they love? If they love a woman why they do crazy things?I have a good relationship with this man and he just admit that he was having an affair that he wants to continue seing that person. I never see this coming since everything was so great with us. We never have a big...
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