Do you think it's ok to discipline kids with public embarrassment?

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   smlbizmattersposted 13 years ago

   Do you think it's ok to discipline kids with public embarrassment?
   
   Ex: The Facebook teen that was caught with a photo of her drinking by her parent and was made to post a picture up that "embarrassed" her as punishment.

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   Manna in the wildposted 13 years ago

   For the vast majority of cases, no it's not a good way. I accept there might be some last-resort cases that could benefit but in general those dishing out discipline should show respect and sensitivity. Children are continually testing the boundaries and trying to find their way in the world. Guidance should be a private affair.

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      THANK YOU.

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   TripleAMomposted 13 years ago

   I don't believe in public punishment because I believe it becomes public humiliation and I don't think that helps the parent/child relationship.  I think that "punishment" is supposed to be correction or discipline, not getting back at a child in anger.  That's what tends to happen when there is an immediate response to something a child does in public.  The guy on the internet did not expect his post to go viral as far as he stated and thought the girl and her friends only was going to see the video.  I thought that was creative, but at the same time, I don't believe I would have gone to that extent.  I would have taken the laptop, not to return it indefinately, and had my child explain why he/she could not contact their friends to their friends.  That is enough embarrasment without the parent doing it.

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree, correction is supposed to be constructive and upbuilding, NEVER denigrating nor destructive to the child's self-esteem!

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   nightwork4posted 13 years ago

   you must be the most ignorant and stupidest person i've ever saw. so how does it feel? get my point. i didn't mean it by the way but i hope people see what i'm trying to say.

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   BeCuriousposted 12 years ago

   Humiliation of another person, no matter who it is, is never okay.  I consider it to be especially reprehensible when parents humiliate their children.  It makes me feel sick.
   I've always told my kids that I'm always on their side, no matter what.  This doesn't mean they can do whatever they want.  But first and foremost, they need to know that I am there for them and however terrible a thing they may have done, I love them and we'll work through it together.

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Great parental strategy.

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