Do you know an umbrella parent and sometimes want to say something when it gets

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   Charluposted 13 years ago

   Do you know an umbrella parent and sometimes want to say something when it gets out of control?
   
   Do umbrella parents sometimes go overboard or the child has them so manipulated they can't see the forest for the trees?  Do you sometimes want to say something but are afraid it will ruin the relationship whether it be friend or relative? 
   It's like sometimes the child will literally smile at you as if to say "Ha! See what I'm getting away with and they don't have a clue," and you just want to scream "How can you not see this?"

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   Starmom41posted 13 years ago

   it didn't even come up in Google-  what the heck is an umbrella parent?

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      Charluposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I am so sorry I don't know why I didn't clarify. An umbrella parent is like a helicopter parent, but hovers over their child a lot closer. They are usually extremely over protective and what ever the child says is gold (the truth)

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      Starmom41posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      thanks for clarifying.  right-off, though, I can't think of anyone who fits that description.

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   jengeurianposted 13 years ago

   I don't personally know anyone who is like this, but I do know people in my neighborhood that I want to say plenty to for not monitoring their children as closely as they should.  In the neighborhood I live in there have been 2 and 3 year old babies running around outside with no adults.  I let my 4 and 5 year old go out in the yard by themselves and just down the alley 3 houses to their friends house, but my 2 and 3 year old girls DO NOT go outside without an adult with them.
   On the other hand, I can see where you are coming from.  The only issue is that saying something won't change what is happening anyhow.  They will keep at what they are doing and alienate you from their life rather than changing anything.  They will only realize what is happening when their child gets in major trouble of some kind, and possibly not even then.  I know that there are parents out there who have children who have done plenty of things that they shouldn't and they always just find someone else to blame.  It becomes a case of never being the fault of their baby because their baby could never do anything like that.  There are times that it can even get to the point of abuse because of not doing any actual parenting when needed.

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   rdownposted 13 years ago

   YES!  I'm sorry to say my sister is like this..mostly with her oldest child.  She let's that now 12 year old get away with anything and everything.  I've said things to her in the past and still do but it is like talking to a wall.  She is so manipulated by her daughter and verbally abused by her it is ridiculous!  What else can one do but try to point out the situation?

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   Becky Katzposted 13 years ago

   I had a neighbor that was an umbrella parent. I went over to complain about her son standing in front of my window, teasing my dog. The dog would hang over the back of the chair and look outside. The kid would tease the dog until he acted rabid. She asked him if he was doing that and he said no. She believed him. She told me he never lied. I looked at her and told her she was deluded. He had just lied to her because I saw him. A fool given the truth is still a fool. I finally let the dog go for him one day when I was walking him. His mother told me that I should control him, I told her that I could not control him with her kid, he had teased him too much and hated her son.
   Just for the record, I raised 5 kids and I have a lie radar that is pretty good. That kid lied constantly.

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