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If a 25 year old man says he doesn't want to have children will he change his mi

  1. stricktlydating profile image82
    stricktlydatingposted 8 years ago

    If a 25 year old man says he doesn't want to have children will he change his mind in time?

    What are the chances? Because what if the woman want's children in the future? Should she choose a different man or hope he changes his mind?

  2. words cocktail profile image60
    words cocktailposted 8 years ago

    Definitely YES, in my opinion, he would change his mind...he's still too young himself at 25...smile you know, it is actually like.."Boys take time to be Men"...Generally women tend to be more mature than men- emotionally & practically. So, stay calm and watch that happen!

    and ummm..on second thoughts, it also depends on HOW long can you be patient.. smile

  3. Dark knight rides profile image72
    Dark knight ridesposted 8 years ago

    Your chances are 50/50. In the most industrialized nations, especially the US, the birth rate is lower than the death rate, leading to decreasing populations. That's because many people are choosing not to have kids. Some don't want the responsibility. For others its the restraint it imposes on their time. And then again, kids are expensive. The US Dept of Agriculture estimate, for a family with a gross income of under $56,000, it will cost almost $160,000 to raise a child, birth to 18. And that is just the bare bones care, so if you're an extravagant parent, it can climb dramatically.  Wow, at least $9,000 a year to raise a kid.

    I guess, to get back to your question, it really depends on the feel you get for the guy. Is he really adamant about it or is he more equivocal about it. And 'words' is right, how long would you be willing to wait to find out? If you're looking to start a family young, then waiting may not be possible.

    And, from a guys perspective, men are generally less interested in having a family when their young. 30-35 is really when guys start to think along those lines.

  4. Mr. Happy profile image83
    Mr. Happyposted 8 years ago

    I have passed that age and I still am convinced that I will not have kids. No ... no kids for me, thank you. If I ever feel that I really want kids there are many kids starving all over this world ... I can adopt.
    If you want kids look for a man who also wants kids. Trying to change someone's mind on this topic I think is senseless.

  5. Skif profile image54
    Skifposted 8 years ago

    I am a 25 year old man.  I do not consider myself immature, "emotionally or practically."  I am not irresponsible.  I served in a war (Iraq), and I helped save peoples' lives after a hurricane (Katrina).  I do not want children.  Just because a 25 year old man does not want children, it does not mean he is immature, irresponsible, or a "boy." My fiance does want one child, and maybe someday we will.  Maybe we will not.  I don't think it's fair for a woman, or man, to try changing their spouses mind about children.  While you are trying to talk him into having a child, is he trying to talk you out of it?  As a couple, we never argue about it.  I understand that she does want children and she understands that I don't. 
    Usually, if a man does not want children, it's a bad idea to try to force it on him.  More times than not, men who don't want kids, make poor fathers.

  6. teendad profile image60
    teendadposted 8 years ago

    If the woman feels her life will never be complete without children, then she should move on. Her man might change his mind, but then again, he might not. Staying with a guy expecting to change him is a recipe for disaster. Most guys don't want to be changed.

  7. dabeaner profile image57
    dabeanerposted 8 years ago

    Seems that he is smart now.  Lets hope he doesn't get dumb as he ages.

  8. Youngcurves19 profile image59
    Youngcurves19posted 8 years ago

    Well its possible he doesn’t feel like he has done what he wanted to do in life yet. If you really love him then you stick around awhile and encourage him to accomplish what he wants to do.
      It could also be possible that he’s waiting for something, maybe yours or his PARENT phase(your/his maturity or willing to give your entire life to the upbringing of someone else) Talk to him, only he knows the reason!
      *Tell him you are ready for the next step and are willing to give him time if that’s what he needs. But you would like to know the reason he’s not ready.
    ~good luck

  9. DatingDragons profile image52
    DatingDragonsposted 8 years ago

    25 is still pretty young and he is still on a pathway of discovery.  the average age for a tertiary educated woman to have her first child is 30-31.  given that the man is usually older by an average of 2 years, he may change his mind over the next 6 years.

    physiologically it has been shown that the human frontal lobe- the part that is important for socialisation and social graces is not fully developed until the age of 27!

  10. pinkboxer profile image62
    pinkboxerposted 7 years ago

    I do not believe he will change. At 25, one knows not only whether or not they want children, but more importantly, if he or she can parent effectively. I blieve that this should be viewed in the context of marriage. Please find a different man who shares your desire to have a family and to be a parent. Be encouraged.

  11. seekingaffair profile image66
    seekingaffairposted 7 years ago

    Maybe he'll change his mind, but most of all it depends of woman.

  12. YU_First 1 profile image60
    YU_First 1posted 7 years ago

    People tend to sidestep direct thoughts. What he may actually be saying is that he does not want kids with you. Deep down inside you too know what to do... go with your intuition.Its the best guide you have...

  13. Libra Rajani profile image60
    Libra Rajaniposted 7 years ago

    That's a difficult question to answer. It depends on what type of person he is. Some men are very structured and goal oriented. They know what they want out of life from the start. In that case, there is no way he is going to change his mind. It could be the fact that he is only 25 and he can't see himself settling down. He may change his mind at a later date. Another consideration may be his family history. If it was not a healthy situation, it may be influencing his decision. In either case, I agree with a previous answer. You have to go with your gut. As women, we have a limited time, if you know what I mean. You should give it serious thought. How important is having children to you? Would you still want to be with him if he doesn't change his mind?

  14. Rastamermaid profile image72
    Rastamermaidposted 7 years ago

    People change,times changes all things change,but he's 25 and besides men can make kids for a longer span than women.
    Men 65 are still fathering children so he definitely has time.

    I myself didn't want kids at first,but  when I decided I did the guy I was with at the time had 2 kids from his marriage and he had a vasectomy.So I had to go,he was willing to attempt the reversal but I thought it was too painful for him and quite expensive.

    We parted ways as friends,several years later I had my son at age 33.

    Glad I changed my mind and still had time.

  15. your cybersister profile image61
    your cybersisterposted 6 years ago

    It is possible, but I wouldn't count on it.  I also wouldn't try to actively change his mind or trick him into becoming a father.  Not everyone wants to be or is cut out to be a parent.  At the age of 25 a person, especially a man, is still very young and as time passes and he becomes more comfortable in his relationship, his career, and with himself as an adult his feelings about parenthood, as well as many other things, MIGHT change. However, they also might not.

    If I were a young woman who felt that I couldn't be happy without having a family then I don't think it would be wise that I plan a future with a man who doesn't share that desire.

    Another possibility, if the woman is truly in love with the young man in question, would be to not rush into things.  Just keep seeing each other and see how things progress.  Maybe he would start to feel differently, or maybe she would realize that how she felt about him was more important than her desire to have a family.  There are other ways to incorporate children into your life and maybe the need for children could be satisfied through one of those.

 
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