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Do you think it's harmful to a little girl's self-esteem to let her play with ma

  1. Viqe Newman profile image63
    Viqe Newmanposted 5 years ago

    Do you think it's harmful to a little girl's self-esteem to let her play with makeup?

    I have a 6 year old niece who loves to play with makeup. This is fine, most people don't think anything of it. Her playing with makeup is harmless; it's like dressing up, but I've noticed that people always say things like "Oooh, how beautiful!" when she shows them her finished makeup. Does this give her the idea that she's only beautiful when she puts on makeup?

  2. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 5 years ago

    I don't believe it gives little girls that impression at all.  If any of us thinks back to when we were little and tried on some lipstick, for example, I think we realize that we weren't even thinking in terms of "beauty with or without make-up" (the way adults concerned about this issue do).  We were just happy to feel more grown-up but also happy to have noticed the look that adding color gave us.

    I really think little girls see something like make-up the same way we might see an evening dress:  It's something we see as making us look special on some occasions.  It doesn't occur to us that we "must be unattractive" the rest of the time.  Most of us remember having, maybe, a special sundress and sandals that made us feel far more special than we felt when we wore a shorts-and-top set.  I think little girls like to feel special and pretty, and I think it helps the self-esteem of anyone who knows what it's like to feel special and attractive.  I think it helps kids learn that when it comes to people who feel special and good about themselves, they are among them; rather than being among the people who have never experienced that positive feeling.

    When she tries on the make-up she's most likely aiming to see how pretty she'll look when she adds the color.  Telling her she looks pretty tells her she's accomplished what make-up is supposed to accomplish.  Imagine how she'd feel if people said, "Oh, that (that you're so happy with) looks awful."

    To be candid, I think little girls' self-esteem is more likely to be hurt when they find their smart, capable, sensible, little selves being treated as if they're fragile flowers to be protected from the world, or else as if they're too dumb to know the difference between being told they're beautiful when they're dabbling with make-up and still being comfortable with who/what they are without it.   smile

  3. AtHomeHeather profile image76
    AtHomeHeatherposted 5 years ago

    I see no harm in her wearing makeup as long as she is being told she that she is beautiful at other points in time when she is not wearing makeup. As long as she knows how lovely she is playing with makeup should not be an issue for your little girl. My daughter is 4 she plays with it all the time and I can tell you she does not suffer from any type of low self esteem (she constantly says how pretty she is)!

  4. pagesvoice profile image84
    pagesvoiceposted 5 years ago

    To put it simply...kids will be kids and it is just natural that they try and emulate their adult role models. So, to answer your question..."No" I don't see any harm at all in little girls playing with make-up. Is it harmful if a little boy pretends he is shaving like his dad?

  5. Becky Katz profile image83
    Becky Katzposted 5 years ago

    My daughter has been getting into my make-up since she was two years old. She got told plenty of times while growing up that she was beautiful, when she was not wearing the make-up. She is 15 now and she wears a very light amount. She realizes that it can be used to enhance her natural beauty. She also realizes that without the beauty of her inner soul, she could be a beauty queen and be totally ugly. Just be sure you let them know that outer beauty is not the one that counts.

  6. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    She's a child, let her play.  We worry too much about these things.  It is normal part of her emulating the women in her life and perfectly healthy.

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    mefajf07300302posted 5 years ago

    Little girls play dress up and playing dress up involves makeup sometimes. Unless you instill that "makeup makes you beautiful" - and by that I mean let her know she's beautiful without makeup, because everyone is going to say "oh you look so beautiful" with makeup there should be no issue there. My daughter who is 3 plays with makeup and as she puts it on I tell her "You don't need this stuff you are gorgeous just the way you are, but it looks nice on you" and about an hour after wearing it she says she wants to wipe it off because and I quote "I wanna let my gorgeous out" lol its cute! But let her be curious just encourage her she doesn't need it to feel pretty