Hi Merriweather
Very interesting, what happened to you in the Pharmacy,
I am not an expert on children neither am I beset by the expert syndrome malady, thus I am in no position to respond as to how many children one should and should not have and since you have put your encounter on this space I shall take it that you do wish to discern my response. You are not sincere by letting yourself into public space only to hear what you perceive as pleasant, in fact I am constantly sharing with my children that they should treat what we refer to as "compliments" with some disdain. I am trying to alert them to the fact that anyone who says something "nice" to them without knowing them is often vulgar and inappropriate as anyone who says something that they may not be comfortable with, they should learn to believe in themselves no matter what the circumstances. Talk about child propaganda. I have seen individuals who have had their entire days ruined simply because someone said something seemingly "unpleasant" to them and I have also seen people light up because someone said something that they felt it made them feel good about themselves. I have seldom been affected by comments, lewd, lascivious or otherwise and for that I was often labelled as arrogant. Believe me even if you had a litter of ferrets with you it would have been your choice to have a litter of ferrets and nobody else's business.
The expert syndrome also seeks to dictate that some people should not have children beyond their means, what means are they referring to I can only wonder, how would a total stranger know what means your children deserve, they probably are dictators in their own households to their children and probably their consorts under the guise of discipline and they also probably deem themselves as providers, how do we know as a collective that what we provide our offsprings is what the indeed deserve, the "Good parent syndrome" I can probably guess that most of us have a reasonable idea of what a good parent is or ought to be, I once heard an individual say that "anyone is good with other people's children, give them their own and they are most likely fail" This was someone drunk in a public commute, someone who would not espouse much "credibility" as per some experts, believe me it was not me, even during the days when I thought I could drown all the alcohol I never did it in a public commute.
The long and shot of it is that I don't know you and probably the individual that you met in the pharmacy, I am not certain why you had children in the first place, you probably aren't that sure yourself why you had children let alone three, you have them and I hope you are doing your best to raise them, and I sincerely hope you do just what they deserve to realise their path on this universe, beyond that it is nobody's business as to how many children you have and why you have them. And please do not allow anyone to influence how you feel about yourself and your children furthermore if you are going to feel that it is fine for strange individuals to chit chat your children in public spaces shame on you for taking offense when the same strange individuals utter things that you deem strange. If I was an expert or subscribed to the notion of experts I would probably ascribe that to esteem issues,
Don't allow anyone to determine who you are or who you should be you are what you are and that is it!
Those experts who think they have the correct ration as to how many children they should have based on their external material acquisitions are the ones who end saying this; "I After all we have done for you, after all we have provided, do you know how many children would kill for this life and privilege?" are the ones who think they have the right to determine global populations and the curtailing thereof, Believe me they are worse because they seldom know what they want, they follow what they refer to as family tradition and they derive pleasure and a sense of accomplishment by feeling better than others and their names being associated with certain organisations, institutions of cognitive education
Have fun and ciao
Ernord Nys
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