What do you consider as an "ideal" number of children to raise?
At least 2-3 children is ideal as they grow up learning to share & socialize with each other and they are a joy to spend time with whatever the age ! I loved having 3 daughters and was one of 4 myself which was awesome ! When older there is more help in looking after parents .
I have met only children that are more selfish as they are more spoilt with having everything to themselves as well as being lonely .
Only children do share & are raised to share. Being an only child was awesome.You're adhering to baseless, even atavistic stereotypes regarding only children. I know people w/siblings who are selfish & refuse to share because they're forced t
Grace, I agree that only children are by no means selfish, at least not in my experience. I have met some who did feel lonely, and wished they had someone near their age in the house to play with. Regardless, as always, thanks for your input.
I agree not all are selfish of course. I have met some that are as well as children from bigger families. That is not why I wanted more than 1 tho. It is because I loved having sisters + a brother & wanted my girls to enjoy the same life .
Good morning Mr. Gill yet we meet again. To answer the question, 1-4 children are the ideal amount of children to raise effectively. In small (1-2 children) & medium(3-4 children) sized families, parents have the time to devote individualized attention, care & love to their children. They do not have to stretch themselves emotionally, mentally, & psychologically in order to interact w/their children. Such children have the monetary advantages beyond the basic rudiments such as education & medical/health care.
Small families fare the best as parents have the greatest access to their children. They have more time to devote to each child. There's more monies allotted to each child. Because of this, such children have better quality of nutrition, medical/health care, & education. They don't have to vie w/each other for parental attention. Parents also have the most span of control-oldest children aren't enforced to raise younger siblings.
Medium sized families fare good.Despite the family being larger, parents are able to give their children individualized attention, care, & love. Such children have to vie for parental attention but there's enough parental involvement. Monies mayn't be stretched so far but children still receive good nutrition, medical/health care, & education. Parents have a decent span of control in many cases-oldest children aren't forced to be parents to their younger siblings.
Medium large(5 children),large,& very large families(6 & more children) fare poorly.By the sheer number of children, parents can't give their children individualized attention, care, & love. Children have to raise themselves & each other. Monies are stretched to the limit, even for the rudiments. It's normal for children in such families to do w/o, even the necessities. Impoverishment is normative for such families. Such children have poor nutrition, little or no medical/health care, & poor quality of education as parents can't afford to send such children to quality schools. The typical large & very large family receives outside aid &/or assistance to stay socioeconomically afloat. Parents have little or no span of control. It is very common for oldest children to raise & parent younger siblings. Parentified children are very commonplace in medium large & especially large & very large families.
I agree; it seems having numerous children must eventually limit the time you can spend with each of them. Still, larger families can still be very loving and functional groups. I'll probably shoot for 2-3 children myself. Thanks for your input.
Not really Children from large families aren't close w/their parents like children from small & medium families are.They don't have the opportunities that the latter have In large families,some are ignored while others aren't!Wouldn't wish it at
My answer is most likely not one you were seeking, but I believe the ideal number of children to raise, is how many you have! I gave birth to 8 of them, and thoroughly enjoyed raising each and every one of them.
They learned about selflessness at an early age, and always had plenty of other children around to play with.
My oldest son and his wife have 7, and one on the way. No one feels neglected.
All of my children knew how to do chores, and change diapers on their younger siblings, and consider other people's feelings and belongings.
It was challenging, but it was wonderful!
I think that depends a lot on the people who are doing the raising, and their children.
I have friends who are strictly "one and done" and they've known it since before they even had their child. They know that with their lifestyle, and the way the envision their lives unfolding, they only want one kid.
I was an only child and based on my experience I would ideally have 2 kids. I want my daughter to have a sibling. My husband and his sister are very close now as adults, and I want that for my daughter. I don't think I'd want more than 2, though I suppose I won't know that until the second one is here! I would be open to 3, but definitely no more than that.
My mom is one of 7 and they're all extremely close. My grandma was an amazing mother and thrived with several children.
Every couple/family is different. There are also situations where people have a child with special needs and while they may want 10+ children, having only one is "ideal".
I appreciate your input, Aime. I wasn't an only child, but I don't think I would have liked to have been one; having many brothers meant I could always play (and admittedly fight) with someone. I agree; I'm probably shooting for 2-3 kids.
Two, having two i am busy enough that i don't have my own personal time
Very understandable, Peach. Children are blessings, but they require a huge amount of time and finances. I have deep respect for parents who give their all for their kids.
Peachy seems to be an excellent & involved mother. God bless!
For me, it's one. But lately I've been feeling that my son might grow up feeling kind of lonely, so I've been thinking about maybe trying to adopt.
Only does not have to mean lonely.Not at all. Arrange play dates for your son. Get him involved in activities. Have him be close to his cousins Only children can find companionship thru friends & cousins. One doesn't need siblings for companions
I think that the presence of two children is good. The presence of the child alone may cause him psychological problems and is also very spoiled. And the presence of more than two children consume a lot of the health of the mother and father as well as a lot of money
by Grace Marguerite Williams13 days ago
Are there still remnants of prejudice against only children? What makes peopleprejudicial against only children?
by Nichol marie5 days ago
What is your Sterotype when you see a large family of 4 children or a small family of just 1 childDo u judge I dont judge on family size at all or those without children at all but I guesse this is a thing now
by Nichol marie11 days ago
Do you know someone who is prejudice of larger families?Why do some people have an ignorant belief that moms of large families cannot be the same as moms with one or 2?
by Justamama5 years ago
Anyone here have a "large family"?What is considered large?I have ten.
by NiaG20 months ago
Or if you had siblings did you wish you were an only child?
by jagandelight8 days ago
Do you think an only child is better off more than they are with siblings?
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