Would you prefer a son or a daughter as your first child? what about the second?

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  1. reddview profile image60
    reddviewposted 10 years ago

    Would you prefer a son or a daughter as your first child? what about the second?

    I'm trying to get an idea for a new hub and just wanted a varied viewpoint from everybody smile


  2. lburmaster profile image74
    lburmasterposted 10 years ago

    Daughter first, then a son. The reason because the eldest feels pressure to be the best they can be, but the first born son always feels pressure to be the best. That way both of my children could strive for the best out of life.
    However, my first is a boy, Corbin. We will see what the second one will be in two years or so. This one will keep me busy for a while.

    1. reddview profile image60
      reddviewposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Well best of wishes with your son and I hope he turns out the best.
      In what ways do you think the daughter would cope with the pressure of being the first born?

      How would you as a parent help reduce the pressure?

    2. lburmaster profile image74
      lburmasterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      The same way I delt with it. Always striving to be the best, even though my brother is more intelligent than I am. I make up for it with organization. Reducing the pressure? My parents never did, but I'd stress to enjoy the little things.

    3. reddview profile image60
      reddviewposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      so i can assume you as a parent believe in letting the child face just enough hardship to make him/her stronger. . . Its good that you are there for the advice they need yet they must learn to handle adequate pressure and find a way out

  3. cjpooja26 profile image63
    cjpooja26posted 10 years ago

    Daughter first and then a son..................................................................................

    1. reddview profile image60
      reddviewposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      could you please explain what makes you choose a daughter first and then a son smile

  4. Elderberry Arts profile image91
    Elderberry Artsposted 10 years ago

    I didn't mind at all with any of my children. I have two boys and a girl.

  5. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 10 years ago

    I originally wanted a boy first, you know the big brother for the little girl.  But when I found out my first was going to be a girl - I switched gears very quickly and adjusted and was so excited to have a daughter.  The second child was a daughter also and frankly I can't imagine it any other way now.  They are all grown and both are lovely young women.

    1. reddview profile image60
      reddviewposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      so do you still think a brother could have been more of a protective figure for your daughters?

    2. duffsmom profile image61
      duffsmomposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      No, I sort of outgrew that notion. My kids were lucky in that their dad worked from home and was always there for them.  Drove on field trips, was able to do things at the school.  So it worked out.

  6. peachpurple profile image83
    peachpurpleposted 10 years ago

    anyone will do. My first born is daughter while second is son. My daughter pampers and love to disturb her little kid brother very much. Both age differs alot, 12 years different. Hence, the elder sister takes a good care of him and pampers him too. No quarrels and no arguments. Older kids always give way to younger siblings especially with such a big age gap.

    1. reddview profile image60
      reddviewposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      but dont you think an age gap larger than  5 or 6 years places a great communication gap between your children?

  7. Sharkye11 profile image90
    Sharkye11posted 10 years ago

    All my life I wanted a little boy first, because I have 5 sisters, and 6 nieces, and that is a lot of girls! As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I instantly wanted  the baby to be a girl. I'm not sure if the change of heart was because I felt more comfortable with girls from all my experience, or if because I sensed on some level that I was indeed having a girl.

    Now that we are planning number two, I honestly don't feel a preference. I love being the mommy of a wonderful little girl, and recently I have become an aunt to an awesome little boy. Now that I have met him, I see that there is not that much difference in babies. They are all lovable!

    1. reddview profile image60
      reddviewposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for this beautiful answer smile

  8. Edward J. Palumbo profile image86
    Edward J. Palumboposted 9 years ago

    I grew up with a brother, attended an all-male academy, joined the Marine Corps, so much of my early life was surrounded by a "testosterone mist". When we learned we'd have our first child, I prayed for a healthy baby but wanted a daughter…and that prayer was ansered. My daughter, now 28, was followed by my son, now 23. I am proud of both but I will say that my wife and daughter accomplished a great deal to polish a few of the rough edges of my personality.

  9. nomadspirit profile image95
    nomadspiritposted 7 years ago

    a daughter first. As girls are just so sweet and special, and are the perfect introduction to motherhood.

  10. Jane Belle profile image60
    Jane Belleposted 6 years ago

    First a boy, so when he grows up he can protect his little sister smile


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