Is there ever a point - besides abuse - that you should cut off contact with a parent?
As someone who has cut all contact with my parents for the last 14 years I personally believe abuse is the only excuse. I heard someone say the other day that they no longer spoke to their father because he smoked marijuana. I would love to have a dad that was good in all ways except he got high. I think people forget sometimes that there are people out there like me who would love to have their messed up parents instead of no parents.
Well, my father is dead, so I would love to have him in my life. But I guess, in a way, my mother was mentally abusive. She has done nothing but lie to me, and feed me things just to throw it in my face how much of a screw up she thinks I am.
Emotional abuse causes the same long term effects mentally as physical abuse. No one should ever put up with ANY form of abuse.
I believe that when a person hurts you emotionally, it can be detrimental to your well being and happiness. I've tried to cut off one of my parents for this very reason. However, during her "good" times, I would accept her phone calls and speak to her. The old routine quickly falls into place though, and then come the put-downs and insults. I found that by NOT cutting off contact with her left me unable to recover from her assaults on my confidence and happiness. I had to eventually tell her she was no good for me at this point in my life. We didn't speak for 3 years. We are now on friendlier terms and talk like ffriends, although, I don't think we'll ever have the kind of mother/daughter relationship I wished we had.
I have a wonderful father and a mother who is no longer welcome in my life. I have not seen or spoke with her in 13 years. I had to cut off contact with her to keep my sanity, Life was not fun when she was around. It was downright agonizing. She was always reminding me of anything bad that she had felt I had done in my life, how wonderful she was, how much I owed her for all that she tried to teach me and so on, If I got 3 A's and 2 B's it was always "you are smart enough to get all A's so you must not be trying hard enough or you must be doing things you shouldn't be doing and on and on. When she started doing the same thing to my children I knew it had to stop. I am so much more relaxed and my self esteem is much healthier since I have broke off contact with her. It was difficult in the beginning but now I know I made the right decision. We only get one shot here on earth and we shouldn't put up with abuse of any kind from anyone. If they refuse to stop the abuse you have no option but to take care of yourself.
The sad truth is that some people simply are not cut out to be parents and thus do a horrible job with their kids. When it gets to a point where a child can no longer tolerate the eccentricities or bad habits of a parent, to survive, they must end their contact with the parent. Respect and love must be earned and not just randomly given. However, this cuts both ways. Children who violate their families in any way also should be removed from the family in order for everybody to have some peace of mind.
by Brian7 years ago
I'm just curious if anyone has ever fallen head over heels in love with someone after only knowing them for a short time. I was camping at a gay campground over the past week, and I met a very handsome man, who I felt...
by Ronilo Blanca4 years ago
What is your point of view of being single mother or father?
by VENZKHVAM6 years ago
A mother once deciding to bring the child out faces thousand of challenges and she even is ready face a dinosaur to save her kids and make them comfortable and happily leaving.But over a period of time many...
by jodyjaneyccck5 years ago
My son was punished by his father for wetting his pants by "squeezing his penis really hard."...Would you agree that this is abuse? I know every parent will eventually overreact to something their child has...
by Peeples6 years ago
Is there ever a reason a person should remain married to someone who physically abuses them?My mother is/was one of these women who stays even when abused. I have never been able to understand this. Why would someone...
by Penny Godfirnon3 years ago
Ever know a person that made you wish you had a magic wand and could point it at them and say POOF
Copyright © 2018 HubPages Inc. and respective owners.
Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners.
HubPages® is a registered Service Mark of HubPages, Inc.
HubPages and Hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.