Is there ever a point - besides abuse - that you should cut off contact with a p

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   ShaydeShafferposted 11 years ago

   Is there ever a point - besides abuse - that you should cut off contact with a parent?

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   peeplesposted 11 years ago

   As someone who has cut all contact with my parents for the last 14 years I personally believe abuse is the only excuse. I heard someone say the other day that they no longer spoke to their father because he smoked marijuana. I would love to have a dad that was good in all ways except he got high. I think people forget sometimes that there are people out there like me who would love to have their messed up parents instead of no parents.

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      ShaydeShafferposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Well, my father is dead, so I would love to have him in my life. But I guess, in a way, my mother was mentally abusive. She has done nothing but lie to me, and feed me things just to throw it in my face how much of a screw up she thinks I am.

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      peeplesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Emotional abuse causes the same long term effects mentally as physical abuse. No one should ever put up with ANY form of abuse.

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   Cas Merchantposted 11 years ago

   I believe that when a person hurts you emotionally, it can be detrimental to your well being and happiness. I've tried to cut off one of my parents for this very reason. However, during her "good" times, I would accept her phone calls and speak to her. The old routine quickly falls into place though, and then come the put-downs and insults. I found that by NOT cutting off contact with her left me unable to recover from her assaults on my confidence and happiness. I had to eventually tell her she was no good for me at this point in my life. We didn't speak for 3 years. We are now on friendlier terms and talk like ffriends, although, I don't think we'll ever have the kind of mother/daughter relationship I wished we had.

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   Conservative Ladyposted 11 years ago

   I have a wonderful father and a mother who is no longer welcome in my life. I have not seen or spoke with her in 13 years. I had to cut off contact with her to keep my sanity, Life was not fun when she was around. It was downright agonizing. She was always reminding me of anything bad that she had felt I had done in my life, how wonderful she was, how much I owed her for all that she tried to teach me and so on, If I got 3 A's and 2 B's it was always "you are smart enough to get all A's so you must not be trying hard enough or you must be doing things you shouldn't be doing and on and on. When she started doing the same thing to my children I knew it had to stop. I am so much more relaxed and my self esteem is much healthier since I have broke off contact with her. It was difficult in the beginning but now I know I made the right decision. We only get one shot here on earth and we shouldn't put up with abuse of any kind from anyone. If they refuse to stop the abuse you have no option but to take care of yourself.

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   TIMETRAVELER2posted 11 years ago

   The sad truth is that some people simply are not cut out to be parents and thus do a horrible job with their kids.  When it gets to a point where a child can no longer tolerate the eccentricities or bad habits of a parent, to survive, they must end their contact with the parent.  Respect and love must be earned and not just randomly given.  However, this cuts both ways.  Children who violate their families in any way also should be removed from the family in order for everybody to have some peace of mind.

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