What do you do if your parents in law don't like you?
Will you try to do effort so that they will like you, what kind of efforts should it be?
It depends on how close your spouse is to them. For example, my father-in-law and I do not get along at all. But my husband is fine with that because he only visits once a year even though we live an hour away. The two of them have never been close so my husband doesn't mind that I don't get along with his father.
If your spouse considers it a problem, then you might have to do something. For example, my parents do not get along with my husband too much. And yes, we see my parents enough that it is an issue. So I've had to help my husband out a bit. He isn't used to the big family (he was an only child) and grew up with the house filled with alcohol (my parents are religious and won't allow it in the house). After discussions with my parents, they have relented a bit to fit our lifestyle. But there will always be little hickups.
I wish I could answer this question because I've been there before my solution to the problem was to be kind as possible, bite my tounge, and not go out of my way to be in their presence. However that may not be the best solution for long term. If you want to irritate a rude in law try killing them with kindness. Don't be a brown nose but just be nice when they are snide to you or rude. If the rudeness is totally unbearable just walk away because chances are if they are name calling or raising their voice they are looking to buck you up and want the confrontation. Another thing I did was went a little out of my way when my other half was around to show them how happy we were maybe just by a small gesture of rubbing his are or giving him a hug and a small smooch before walking away or even while sitting having a conversation. I wanted them to know he was happy so basically either they are going to deal with you or not its best for the family if you can work through your differences however that is not always possible. Good luck to you.
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