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Would you let your mother-in-law live with your family in your house, even if it

  1. ThePracticalMommy profile image96
    ThePracticalMommyposted 6 years ago

    Would you let your mother-in-law live with your family in your house, even if it was only temporary?

  2. Mind Unsettled profile image60
    Mind Unsettledposted 6 years ago

    I might consider if it were for a day or two and there was a definite planned move out date.  Otherwise, I wouldn't do it.  You're just asking for trouble smile

  3. Barbara Kay profile image89
    Barbara Kayposted 6 years ago

    We did this for awhile when we were first married. A lot of the choice depends on how well you and your mother-in-law get along. If she is one that is always trying to tell you what to do, she might drive you crazy.

  4. silver lining 5 profile image61
    silver lining 5posted 6 years ago

    Yes I would.  More and more this is becoming the norm for alot of families.  The fact that the economy has hit bottom makes for necessary adjustments within the lives of those who are most vulnerable.  I would but that's me.

  5. JEDIJESSICUH profile image80
    JEDIJESSICUHposted 6 years ago

    Not a chance.

    My mother-in-law never really knew me before I married her son. In fact, she was in Georgia when he came to visit me in California on leave for the army. She told him not to do something stupid like get married. A couple days later he called her up to say that we were engaged. So I don't know how she feels about me as a daughter-in-law, especially since the only time she ever saw me when she was still in California was whenever I was going in or out of her son's room.

  6. nancynurse profile image78
    nancynurseposted 6 years ago

    Yes IF it is temporary. Privacy is so important in a marriage and I have seen too many marriages turned upside down by someone, even well meaning giving advice.  We enter marriage with 2 different sets of backgrounds and it is difficult enough trying to mingle those 2 together without bringing in a 3rd person. Two adults in one house is plenty.

  7. prektjr.dc profile image83
    prektjr.dcposted 6 years ago

    Overall, the answer is yes, however...if it were a mother-in-law who was capable of being self-sufficient I would do everything possible to keep it temporary.  I would help her get on her own, but I would gladly let her move in.

  8. lisabeaman profile image82
    lisabeamanposted 6 years ago

    Without question, yes. Even though we have our moments, I have been blessed with incredible in-laws who are closer to me than anyone in my own family. While I don't see it happening anytime soon... I do believe that there will come a day when one of them will move in with us. There will be plenty of adjusting and compromising and it won't be easy... but yes, I would do this - even if it were permanent.

  9. MarieAlice profile image80
    MarieAliceposted 6 years ago

    I SURE WILL, IN FACT, THE FIRST TIME I CAME TO SPAIN WE WERE LIVING TOGETHER...I GUESS EVERY COUPLE WANTS THEIR OWN SPACE, BUT SOMETIMES CIRCUNSTANCES MAKE YOU LIVE WITH YOUR PARENTS OR PARENTS IN LAW, SO I THINK YOU ONLY HAVE TO DEAL WITH THAT

  10. thebookmom profile image76
    thebookmomposted 6 years ago

    Both my in-laws lived with us for 6 months while they made a big life transition.  While it was intense at times, it really helped us understand and appreciate each other better and it really helped my husband and I learn to communicate effectively.  While I'm glad it wasn't a forever arrangement, it was much better than I thought it would be smile

  11. VirginiaLynne profile image99
    VirginiaLynneposted 6 years ago

    When my in-laws moved into this area, we realized that we could never have either of them live in our home because they were such disruptive and difficult people.  However, if they had been able to treat us and our children kindly and without abuse, I would certainly have considered caring for them at home in their last years.  I think that caring for older relatives at home is a good thing for families as long as it does not take too much away from anyone.

  12. Lisa HW profile image77
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    My mother-in-law is no longer living, but sure.  I loved her.  My kids loved her. We would have been happy to have her stay with us.  I probably would have preferred it not be a permanent thing, although a long-term thing would have been fine; and I guess, if necessary, we would have adjusted to having her in the house permanently.  But temporary?  I'd have been happy to have her there.

  13. Horse Feathers profile image60
    Horse Feathersposted 6 years ago

    I have and likely would again hopping it was only temporary!

  14. Dexter Yarbrough profile image83
    Dexter Yarbroughposted 6 years ago

    Absolutely, I would. Sometimes we forget the sacrifices are spouses parents make for us and the support they give us when we first get married. So yes, she would be more than welcome.

  15. 6hotfingers3 profile image59
    6hotfingers3posted 6 years ago

    There was a time when it was a given that the parent(s) of either spouse had an automatic room with their grown children. It was the belief that parents would be taken care of when they needed help or  care. Now for the question you asked. I would permit my mother in law to come live in my home with an understanding that she will be living in my home and I run the goings on under my roof. This can be said in a diplomatic manner so the mother in law understands from day one who rules the hen house. If she tries to undermine me in any fashion,  I will make sure she is given a friendly warning and after that if she insist on being against the rules of the house, my spouse will have to find other housing provisions for my mother in law.

  16. profile image0
    lostwithinmyselfposted 6 years ago

    Yes i would let my mother-in-law come live with us. She is a nice women and we get on well. They have stayed with us before and i like having her around. x

  17. Laura in Denver profile image78
    Laura in Denverposted 5 years ago

    In the case of no dementia, this MIGHT work out. CAUTION AHEAD:

    Temporary too often becomes permanant with caregivers who haven't the skills or time.

 
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