What are some ways to help a young child cope with the loss of her mother?

  1. jjackson786 profile image90
    jjackson786posted 8 years ago

    What are some ways to help a young child cope with the loss of her mother?

    My niece is six years old and her mother will be going away for treatment soon. Before now, my sister- her mother- has been living with her; until about two months ago, my sister had been in prison for a year. My niece was just growing accustomed to having her home and now she will most likely be leaving again for an extended period of time, perhaps several years. Any suggestions for how to help my niece through this difficult time? Any ideas on how to help her cope with this sudden absence?

  2. Lisa HW profile image64
    Lisa HWposted 8 years ago

    I have experience on both sides of that matter of a six-year-old being separated from her mother, but neither involved anything that was essentially the fault of the mother.  So, I suppose whether my suggestions are any good or not depend on whether the mother managed to still be a good influence on her child or not.

    Anyway, my mother was hospitalized for seven/eight months just around my seventh birthday.    My sister and I waited for her to be able to call and talk, and that meant so much to us.  Also, we got to go stand outside the TB "san" and visit with my mother, who sat in her window.  Staying in touch with her was absolutely the most important thing to my sister and me.  My brother was a toddler, so that was a whole other thing.    Keeping our minds occupied by going to school, playing with friends, having good times with our father, were all extremely important; because at night, once it was time to try to sleep, my sister and I pretty much cried every night as we worried about our mother. 

    Basically, we acted OK during the day, but that unhappiness was always there somewhere in the back of our mind, and at night when we had time to think and worry it would move to the front of our mind.

    That experience helped me have a pretty good idea about how my own two youngest children felt when I took my three kids and left my marriage one day, and a couple of relatives thought I was "nuts" for doing so.  Someone called in the state, and from there a whole bunch of lies were entered in court - and in spite of a clean bill-of-mental-health being presented in court.  Their father moved with them to another part of the state, and it was longer than eight months.   What was bad was that I had been the parent with whom they were closest and most comfortable, simply because that's how it often is when fathers work long hours and leave the "child matters" to the mother.

    I'd say - again - that finding ways to keep in touch and still remain her mother, if she's at all able to be a strong, reassuring, positive-attitude mother who also knows how to get her child's mind off any gloomy thoughts, is the important thing.

    I don't think the mother's absence should come without warning.

    1. jjackson786 profile image90
      jjackson786posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your response, Lisa. Her mother tends not to be an overall positive influence in her life, as there is a lot of emotional manipulation going on in that situation. She does keep in touch with her mother and sees her often.

 
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