Fathers out there, what steps should be implemented to raise caring, sensitive,

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   Fathers out there, what steps should be implemented to raise caring, sensitive, and empathic sons?
   
   

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   christiananrkistposted 10 years ago

   I'm a big believer in example. If you behave the way you want your son to behave from day one he will follow. This reminds me of something I always hated as a kid and its the "do as I say , not as I do" saying. I'm not sure what people think kids are supposed to learn from that, or why their kids should take them seriously in any area. 1 more thing I would like to say, kids aren't stupid. You will be amazed what you can explain to kids at very very young ages and have them understand. It just has to be done in a caring and respectful manner. Just the way adults like to be spoken to.  They aren't little robots that are programmed a certain way and if you push the right buttons they will do what you want. They are really just little young human beings, they have thoughts and feelings and desires just like adults. If you treat them like their opinions matter and treat them like adults, they will respond and behave accordingly. Many people disagree with me on this, but I raised my daughter this way and she is doing great. All that being said, everybody is and individual and respond to different things in different ways. In the end you know your child best (event though so called specialists love to write books) and you raise them the way you see fit.

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent answer again as usual!

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      christiananrkistposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      lol. thank you. i think many other will disagree with me ever giving good answers.

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   Wakerraposted 10 years ago

   (I'm not a father or guy, but I can offer insights too, right?)  Examples are huge, so is spending time with your child.  When it comes down to it, they have their free-agency as well to choose what they want to do.  I've seen even some of the most close-knit and well off families lose family members to bad habits/poor life choices.
   
   The most important factor is LOVE.  Love speaks louder than any lecture, and its something I wish my dad showed more to us kids.  Instead of spending time with us and speaking in soft tones, he was watching TV/sports games, working, or on his computer (Minesweeper was his thing) and should anything go wrong, it was anger, shouting, and lectures.  My brother grew up to be rebellious and controlling, while my sister and I are quiet and submissive.
   
   This may not relate exactly to the topic, but it comes from the point of view of a father and is really quite cute and powerful http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=pl … 5FxdCgD-qI

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Offer, offer!

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      Wakerraposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      what am I offering...?  Did I do something I shouldn't have?  D:

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