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What would be a new idea to use on my 5 year old son. He cant come home on a goo

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    shyllahebertposted 4 years ago

    What would be a new idea to use on my 5 year old son. He cant come home on a good conduct grade.

    Ive used both a reward system and punishment.Hes only a little boy. Good grades. Just cant seem to shut his mouth..lol.

  2. MimiKat33 profile image76
    MimiKat33posted 4 years ago

    The punishment system won't work.  By the time he gets home from school too much time will have passed and the punishment won't mean as much. 
    My 5 year old granddaughter is rewarded when she gets thru an entire week without warnings.  She has a small pile of reward gifts, videos, games and such. She sees them all week and knows at the end of a good week she will be able to pick one.  So far its working great.

  3. brblog profile image85
    brblogposted 4 years ago

    My son had a similar problem (2nd grade), too much talking, not focusing, etc. The teacher implemented a ranking document. Every 1/2 hour or so, she would observe him and give him a mark if he was doing a good job. This would be added up at the end of the day with a possible total of 10. I told him a 10 was excellent, 9 was great, 8 was good, 7 was ok (but barely acceptable) and anything below was not acceptable. At first he did get some scores of 5 and 6. So, I told him if he got under a 7 he was grounded for that night - no TV, computer, etc. After a few days, his marks were consistently in the 8/9 range with an occasional 7 and 10 - hardly ever lower. The tracking system made him more aware of the problem and he soon started to pay attention to the daily marks (for example, he would rush to check them right after school to see how he did). The grounding was an extra incentive but I think just being aware that there was a process happening and he was part of that process make it work.

  4. CraftytotheCore profile image81
    CraftytotheCoreposted 4 years ago

    I had a reward system for my children at that age.

    A sticker chart on each of their bedrooms.  By asking them to do the things they were supposed to like brushing teeth, putting on pjs, combing own hair, they got stickers on their chart.  Every so many stickers equaled a reward.

    I printed out certificates for their favorite places to visit such as ice cream places, restaurants, parks, etc.  They could cash in their stickers for a certificate which would entitle them to the treat they chose.  It worked really well! 

    We also have a structured routine which really helps.

  5. krillco profile image93
    krillcoposted 4 years ago

    I'm a clinical, licensed counselor who has worked with thousands of kids and parents. Punishment never works (our prisons are full of people to prove that). Stickers as rewards are also likely not to work, as not all kids are homogeneous (what works for one as a reward may not work for another). Besides, giving rewards for behaviors that are required as part of life is nuts...the police officer never stops me and gives me money when I'm going under the speed limit. Go to my Hub listings and read an article there called 'A Guaranteed Discipline Method for Kids'.

    1. CraftytotheCore profile image81
      CraftytotheCoreposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      It worked for my children and was approved by one of the top psychologists at Yale.