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Do you allow your children to speak to you anyhow and have their own way at an e

  1. LadyFiddler profile image77
    LadyFiddlerposted 3 years ago

    Do you allow your children to speak to you anyhow and have their own way at an early age?

    Sometimes I see toddlers throwing tantrums in toy stores etc , screaming and squealing , while the parent is normal as ever and would not make an attempt to bring this child under control. Do your child throw these tantrums at you? what do you do? do your kids yell at you?

  2. CraftytotheCore profile image82
    CraftytotheCoreposted 3 years ago

    Before my son was diagnosed with Autism, he did in fact have pure meltdowns and screaming tantrums in stores.  It was very difficult to manage him in the store.  Eventually, he was diagnosed with Autism and sensory disorders.  To this day, going to a store is very difficult for him even though he is older.

    Some tips which I've learned that can seemingly help all children are:

    1) If the child is having a tantrum in the store, figure out what's causing the tantrum.  Is the child tired, hungry, overstimulated?  Sometimes it's a matter of the child wanting to run loose in the store.  That's always been a big no no for my family.

    2) Starting from a young age, place the child in a cart while shopping at the store.  The child will learn that that's where they sit and they are not allowed to run loose to prevent injury to themselves and others in the store.  (There's nothing worse than when I'm walking in the store and a child darts out in front of me almost getting injured which could have been prevented if the parent didn't let them run loose.)

    3) Don't bribe your child with rewards for bad behavior.  It's ok to offer a reward to the child for a job well done listening while in the store. But if the child doesn't comply, don't reward the behavior. 

    4) Keep a chart for the child at home, age appropriate, which rewards the child with something for good behavior at the store.   

    5) Talk to your child and let them know what's expected of them at the store.  Give them advanced notice so at the store the transitions will be easier.

    6) If your child's behavior doesn't stop and it's too difficult to continue shopping, leave the store and go back later. 

    7) When my children were smaller, I packed a goody bag of stuff they could do in the cart while I did my shopping.  Now they bring their electronic games to prevent boredom.

    1. LadyFiddler profile image77
      LadyFiddlerposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Craftytothecore good to see you and thanks so much for taking the time out to answer my question i do appreciate it , Great answer smile

  3. Josh Makaveli profile image34
    Josh Makaveliposted 3 years ago

    You cannot just ignore your kids doing this stuff because this will turn our to be a huge mistake of your life. If you let them do on their own then they will never ever listen to you and whenever you try to disagree with them on any point they feel offended and react in extremely bad manners and it will become their habit.
    You have to train them to be sober and sophisticated, let them talk softly because being parents, this is our responsibility to teach them right whether it seem wrong to them.

    1. LadyFiddler profile image77
      LadyFiddlerposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Josh so true you have to train them RIGHT else you will have a spoiled BRAT on your hands later on. Thanks for dropping by smile

    2. Josh Makaveli profile image34
      Josh Makaveliposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      you are welcome dear smile

  4. Jackie Lynnley profile image88
    Jackie Lynnleyposted 3 years ago

    I brought my children up to be respectful and obedient just like my parents did me and they were. They were always mannerly and quiet and would never even think to have tantrums or fits. In fact they would be wide eyed and shocked watching other children act that way. I think my son has done better as a parent than my daughter but even her children would not act wild and disobedient in public.
    You just from the beginning can teach your child what is acceptable and what is not. I get disgusted with parents that have absolutely no control over children and believe they should not bring them out to make others have to endure their loud bad manners!

    1. LadyFiddler profile image77
      LadyFiddlerposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Hey Jackie thanks for stopping by to answer my question so true i hate to see it i feel like throwing a tantrum on the parents, for encouraging such ridiculous behavior in PUBLIC or Private.

  5. Erin Trefz profile image84
    Erin Trefzposted 3 years ago

    Absolutely not! We raise our kids to have respect.  For this to happen, they need respect too. I have read a couple great books lately, and also wrote a Hub about the children we raise. 
    If my four-year old, or 18 month old would throw a fit at home we do not fuel it.  Many times they want a reaction, so if it is my oldest we send him to his room and say he can come out when he is done.  We make sure he is not going to hurt himself, our dog, or little brother.  If he is safe, he will stay in his room as long as it takes him to get control of himself.  Since his goal is usually attention from us it does not take long.

    If the tantrum is in a store, I most definitely do not give him what he is throwing a fit over.  I either walk away(anticipating he will follow) since this again takes the attention away from him, or we leave the store. 

    Don't judge us mommy's who have a kid throwing a fit.  Every kid hits their limit & it is to everyone's benefit that we don't do whatever it takes to give in & get them what the want.  Remember, they will be an adult in the work force someday!