Who should be blamed for a kid's troublesome attitude?

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   dailytop10posted 10 years ago

   Who should be blamed for a kid's troublesome attitude?
   
   Is it his family? The community? Or the school he attends to?
   
   

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   Lori P.posted 10 years ago

   This is not a simple question with a simple answer. "Troublesome" attitude can mean different problems. Is there an underlying emotional/mental challenge that stems from his biology (ie. genetics, physiology)? Is it a of lack of proper modeling/teaching of acceptable social behavior?
   
   Behaviorists agree that a child's attitude develops from both nature (biology) and nurture (environmental) factors.
   
   I don't care for the word "blame." If there is a problem, we need to find the solution. Bad parents usually lacked good parenting themselves.

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   fpherj48posted 10 years ago

   "Blame".......IMHO, the person(s) or thing(s) that may or may not be "responsible" for an issue, problem, accident, etc....shouldn't be our first and foremost concern.  If necessary, this fact can always be addressed and/or dealt with more appropriately at a later time.
   
   What is most important, it seems to me, is attending to the issue.  Our concern and energies need to be focused on helping to correct or to repair damages.
   
   In terms of your particular question, it's fair to say that family, school & community may all play a part in coming to terms with reasons for a child's "troublesome attitude." 
   
   I will add that there is a long list of other possibilities, depending upon the child, his/her age, as well as what exactly this "attitude" is.   It's no secret that child development experts, pediatricians and behavior scientists have found a direct link between some disciplinary issues and "Diet."   Within this same area, "Allergies" can sometimes wreak havoc in children, affecting behavior.
   
   In other words.....all those you mention: Family, teachers & community members are vital connections to being alert and aware of all the many possibilities involved in creating (so to speak) an issue requiring thorough examination for each individual child.
   
   Unless there is blatant child abuse and/or neglect involved...."blame" isn't a primary concern.  The vast majority of adults with any relationship to a child, most often wish to be part of the solution, as opposed to being part of the problem. Pointing fingers is fairly useless.
   
   Excellent question. I look forward to reading the variety of responses this will yield.

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   Charlie petersposted 10 years ago

   Everything mixed can be to blame.  What he or she learns at school or home or with friends can bleed over into the other aspects of his/her life.  A parent can only do so much, especially when they start school, and what goes on at school sometimes just stays in school.  It's like being with your different groups of friends that might have different interests or acting only certain ways at home with family.  A parent can raise them right to the best of their abilities, but the plan doesn't always fall through.

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   Dave36posted 10 years ago

   Probably all 3 & the T.V are to blame, for any kids troublesome attitude....I don't believe kids are born with a built in attitude problem, & i reckon it's something they learn like any other bad habit....The kid doesn't know who they are as an individual yet, & whatever they do know about themselves is only from other peoples opinions/influences over them....Then said kid will develop an ego or character like all people do, & that's their life story so far built mainly on other peoples opinions/influences over them....So there is blame & it could be from a lot of outside factors, but in my honest opinion the kid is never to blame....So he or she will be unhappy with something/someone, & so can't deal with their emotions properly because their probably caused by outside influences....An outside influence on the kids emotional mind, could be something like bullying, lack of attention or their unwanted past experiences/emotions.

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   Baby-Boomer-58posted 10 years ago

   I'd like to know more about the boy in the photo. Is he one of yours?

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   wmhoward4posted 10 years ago

   I heard that the Devil made them do it.
   
   One cannot discount the effects of sugar and watching Sponge Bob.

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   liesl5858posted 10 years ago

   I think the parents should be the one to be blamed first for a kid's troublesome attitude, as they are the ones that bring up the child not other people unless they are adopted. Discipline starts from home not at school or the community. By all means the teachers help educate your child but I think parents are the ones responsible for their children to start of with.  Manners should be taught by the parents not the teachers or anybody else. Anyway this is my opinion, please don't stone me.

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   swilliamsposted 10 years ago

   Most kids are stubborn by nature, you can have one child that is obedient and the next child is a crazy person. Personality traits are built into a child and each child responds to discipline differently. This is not by fault of the parents. However if the parents ignore the problem and do not stand firm in their discipline actions then the child is leading the family and this will create serious problems.

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    gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

    
    
    There are myriad factors and variables which are influential regarding a child's contentious behavior. First of all,it may be socioeconomic conditions.Children born into poverty or situations where there is constant/persistent economic struggle are not going to be happy nor secure.They are in unstable environment where there is much uncertainty if the necessities are going to be provided. Children sense this insecurity & act out accordingly. 
    
    Besides socioeconomic factors,the child may come from a physically and/or psychological unstable where there is abuse and other types of dysfunction.Children who grow up in abusive/dysfunctional homes are on an uneven keel so to speak.They have to adopt certain mechanisms in order to guard themselves & for sheer survival.
    
    Family size is also highly influential.Studies authenticate that with very few exceptions,children from small families fare much better overall than children from large/very large families and for good reasons. In small families,children receive more individualized parental attention and love. Furthermore in small families,there is less financial stress as there is more monies allocated per child.Parents are also less stressed physically, mentally, and psychologically in small families than they are in large/very large families.In large/very large families of 6 and more children, there is NO way that parents can adequate give their children the prerequisite attention. Some children are going to be waysided and neglected,having to fend for themselves at an early age while others are going to receive the lion's share of parental attention.Children who do not receive the prerequisite parental attention are going to act out negatively in order to receive ANY attention.Children from large families gravitate towards gangs & other types of juvenile delinquency in order to get the attention they didn't receive from their parents.
    
    Despite a good home environment,there are some children who by their own volition fall into the wrong crowd or peer group.They feel quite insignificant in themselves and want to be the biggest,baddest,coolest,&  hippest kid around so the crowd is a vehicle for these children's bad behavior.They contend to any group is better than no group.
    
    Of course, some communities and cultures are conducive to enabling bad behavior in children; that goes without saying.In these environs, being bad/tough is a badge of honor and is a MUST for survival.To be otherwise is to be considered weak.

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