How do you deal with stepchildren?

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   alexandriaruthkposted 9 years ago

   How do you deal with stepchildren?
   
   It is difficult parenting stepchildren, what are soem tips to deal with them?

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   girlgamersposted 9 years ago

   I try not to treat mine like step-children.  I don't have any children of my own though, so I wouldn't really know the difference.  They're still my boys, I'm still Daddy's wife and an authority figure, and I will always love them, no matter what.  The youngest's mother lost all rights, and he hasn't seen her since he was a baby, so he considers me mom, even though he knows I'm not and calls me by my name, but anytime someone asks about his mom, he refers to me.  The older two are a little different.  Mom is allowed rights, but doesn't want them.  They have the idea that I replaced their mom and it's my fault mom doesn't want them.  Mom was running away way before I came into the picture, but they still think that it's my fault.  It hurts because I'm doing the best I can to make sure they're raised to be respectable young men, and I do love them like I would my own children if I ever did have them, but deep down, I can see in their eyes that they don't like me.  I try not to let it bother me too much, one day when they're older they'll understand everything, but in the mean time, show no weakness. Lol.

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      alexandriaruthkposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for commenting. I have two of them and their mom has rights, they call me mom  and I love them. There are conflicts diciplining them. You are a good mom/woman for sure.

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   The best way to deal with stepchildren is by making sure they know all of the adults are on the same page.
   If you don't have the support of your spouse at the very least then you can forget about having stepchildren respect you.

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      girlgamersposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I completely agree with this.  Sometimes my husband and I don't see eye to eye on different aspects, especially punishment, and they tend to end up getting out of it because we forget to support the other's decisions.

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      alexandriaruthkposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yup, specially if they think that the children are at a disadvantage position because the other parent left them.

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