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To those who are only children, did your parents come from a small (1-2 children

  1. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago

    To those who are only children, did your parents come from a small (1-2 children per family),

    medium(3-4 children per family), medium large(5 children per family) or a large/very large family( 6 and more children per family)?  How did your parents' family background impact upon the way they raised & related to you? If your parents were only children themselves, did that fact make them better & more understanding parents?


  2. Aime F profile image84
    Aime Fposted 2 years ago

    I'm an only child and my mom was one of seven.  My dad (by adoption, he wasn't my bio father) was one of three.  I wasn't an only child by choice (she and my dad tried to have another baby for years but they couldn't conceive).  I think there's a definite pro as an only child when it comes to bonding with parents, I didn't have to share my attention with anyone, and it's a different dynamic.  But my parents both got along/get along wonderfully with their siblings and were also very close with their parents.  So I don't think it makes a HUGE difference in families that focus on being tight-knit.  My mom and all of her siblings talked to my grandma on the phone every day, she lived with a bunch of her kids (including us!) throughout her life, and was a fantastic mother to all seven of her kids.  My dad also took in his parents after my other  grandma was diagnosed with brain cancer and had very invasive brain surgery.  So I'd say their bonds were pretty solid even though they had siblings to "compete" with.

  3. lisavollrath profile image96
    lisavollrathposted 2 years ago

    My mother was one of nine, although only five lived out of infancy. She also had several step brothers and sisters. My father was an only child. Both parents experienced the Depression as children, and had fathers who were alcoholics. Both parents were estranged from their families, so we had no contact with any aunts, uncles or cousins when I was a child, and only minimal contact with grandmothers (both grandfathers were deceased by the time I was born, and both grandmothers remarried).

    My parents did the best they could, but they really weren't equipped to be parents at all. They had no real frame of reference for how a normal healthy family looked, and no extended family support system.

  4. peachpurple profile image82
    peachpurpleposted 2 years ago

    nope, my mom has 7 siblings, my dad has 4 siblings, don't know why they had me and my brother only