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Have you ever interfered in your son's/daughter's career choices?

  1. thumbi7 profile image63
    thumbi7posted 18 months ago

    Have you ever interfered in  your son's/daughter's career choices?

  2. Dr Pran Rangan profile image87
    Dr Pran Ranganposted 18 months ago

    You have asked a pertinent question, to which most of parents are not able to find an answer. Most parents think that they know a lot about life in general. This is true but they are mostly confused when they have to guide their children about career choices as there are plenty of careers to be pursued these days.

    When I was studying in school, there were limited options for career: medicine, engineering, administrative services or doctorate courses. We had no career counselors then; even our parents were not competent enough to guide us in this regard. I just chose medicine over engineering though I had very good marks in mathematics.

    Now things have taken a u-turn; there are plenty of careers and  counselors, and most parents are competent enough to guide their children as well.

    My daughter, who was very good in studies throughout, opted to make a career in accounts, changing the study stream accordingly. I was sure that if she followed a career in medicine, she could do so successfully. But I allowed her to exercise her free will in choosing her career. She completed studies to become a Chartered Accountant and is at present successfully employed in a multi-national audit firm.

    I did the same when my son decided to opt for hotel management course. I had allowed both my children to have their will in choosing their career.

    It is futile to pressurize children to follow the career choice that their parents decide. It is more valuable to know their interest and help them choose accordingly rather than imposing your own choice. Children are quite smart these days; they are more knowledgeable than their parents in some respects.

    1. thumbi7 profile image63
      thumbi7posted 18 months agoin reply to this

      True Sir
      But in India, still medicine is considered as coveted profession by many.
      There is lot of competition to get into medicine. But I also feel that many teenagers are not able to decide on their own  and go with the trend influenced by peers

  3. teaches12345 profile image96
    teaches12345posted 18 months ago

    I tried not to influence his final decision but did guide him through his choices. I think we are all gifted in one area and finding the best match for our talents is what matters. At this age, teens are not always capable of looking at the broad picture and narrowing it down to one they understand.