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Do you push your child to pursue a certain career choice or allow them to chose

  1. Charlu profile image81
    Charluposted 5 years ago

    Do you push your child to pursue a certain career choice or allow them to chose their own?

    Should children be allowed the ability to pursue their own career choices no matter how unachievable  or unrealistic they may seem?

  2. caranoelle profile image84
    caranoelleposted 5 years ago

    I am presuming we are talking about children in their teen, to late teen age, as this wouldn't really be a serious concern with a younger child.  Children should be allowed to pursue their own career choices; even when they seem unrealistic to the parents.  People learn by making choices and learning from mistakes.  If a parent keeps their child from making their own choices it can cause harm, two-fold.  One in a sense that the child is not able to make their own choices and be independent.  Secondly because it can cause a level of resentment towards the parent, "I would have been an artist if my mother only believed in me."  You can give your child advice, and try to encourage behaviors you know will lead to positive outcomes, however ultimately it is their life and they have to make their own choices.

  3. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 5 years ago

    i want them to choose their own. my oldest is a Maintenance Engineer and he makes a good living at it. he asked my opinion before he went to college for it and i gave it to him. i would never make the decision for my kids but i will talk to them about the pros and cons of whatever they want to do.

  4. fitmom profile image82
    fitmomposted 5 years ago

    I would support them in whatever they are passionate about (within reason). I would encourage them to volunteer in that area and observe in that area to see if it is really something they would be interested in.

  5. Ciel Clark profile image74
    Ciel Clarkposted 5 years ago

    I have a French girlfriend who, due to parental influence, became a judge.  She wanted to be a writer.  She now feels stuck and unable to change--she has a certain  lifestyle and is sadly resigned.  Would she have been happier?

  6. Nagatang profile image75
    Nagatangposted 5 years ago

    Force would not work, but encourage them to develop their skill toward relevant career I feel will make our children happy and will land in big money.
    Say my son like to sing and his voice is good too, then I would encourage him to learn about music & stage performance.....which could eventually lead him to be well paid singer.

  7. sanketjha profile image59
    sanketjhaposted 5 years ago

    It depends ...if the choice is realistic the child should be encouraged to pursue it but fantastic choices....that have no relevance should be discouraged to avoid repentance.

  8. txmommy profile image59
    txmommyposted 5 years ago

    Of course children should be allowed to pursure their own career choices no matter the circumstances. Part of life's lessons is learning what is achievable and what isn't. Sometimes we fall face flat on the ground, but we learn from our falls and move forward. No life path will ever be a perfect straight line. Our decisions form the tree of our own lives and sometimes we do change the course of it, but that makes us who we are. Every individual should have the opportunity to live life in their own shadow and not in someone else's. smile