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Why people from small families make MUCH BETTER, MORE INVOLVED, & LOVING parent

  1. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 14 months ago

    Why people from small families make MUCH BETTER,  MORE INVOLVED, & LOVING parents to

    their children as opposed to people from large families who make PERFUNCTORY, DISTANT  & even LESS CARING parents to their children?   People who grew up in small families had parents who were involved in their lives.  They also had parents who cared.  In contrast, people who grew up in large families had parents who WEREN'T involved in their lives.  They had to raise themselves.  Also, they had parents who were distant & even unloving towards them.


  2. tamarawilhite profile image90
    tamarawilhiteposted 14 months ago

    When you have twice as many children, you have half as much one on one time with each child. If you have a stay at home parent and tight control of the household, it could equal the quality and quantity of attention as a home with two kids, tons of shuttling to activities and lots of TV viewing. On average, it isn't.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 14 months agoin reply to this

      A++++++, YOU'RE CORRECT AS USUAL.    It is THE MOST INTELLIGENT who have small families while the LEAST INTELLIGENT have large families.

  3. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 14 months ago


    Children learn from their familial environment, for better or worse.  Children from small families(1-2 children per household) typically had parents who were loving, caring, & involved in their lives.  Their families were small enough so that parents could easily have individualized time w/them.  They didn't have to compete for parental attention as there was enough parental attention to go around.   Parents of small families also planned for their children so they wouldn't be stressed emotionally, mentally, psychologically, & socioeconomically by the latter.   

    As a result, children who grew up in small families are more involved parents.  They are apt to spend time w/their children, teaching & interacting w/them as their parents did to them.  People from small families are more loving & involved parents because these components were in their familial environment. 

    By contrast, children from large families(6-more children per household) had parents who were distant & uninvolved in their lives.  Child neglect is commonplace in the large family environment.   Children in large families raise themselves & each other.   Parents are parents in name only, if that.  As a result, children from large families are perfunctory parents, if that.  They aren't involved in their children's lives, believing that children ought to learn on their own.  They aren't the type of parents who interact w/their children. 

    People who come from large families aren't loving & involved parents.  They are cold & distant.  They seldom, if ever, participate in their children's lives.  They feel that their duties as parents are giving birth & providing for the rudiments & that's it.  They don't believe in interacting w/their children as they believe that siblings &/or other children serve that purpose.   People who grew up in large families simply don't make warm, loving, & involved parents.  They tend to be off-putting to their children.

  4. east-west pro profile image66
    east-west proposted 14 months ago

    Being small has it advantages. The golden rule for success, it seems to me is "Keep the basics simple and strong".

    Smaller families are able to spend enough time if not more to their children unlike larger ones. The larger ones it seems that they were unable to handle their own grown up children like the ones you have mentioned.

    Parental care and love are of paramount importance during childhood. The child deprived of these two sufferes both as a child and as an adult too!

    Limits physical, psychological, financial, and spiritual! helps to work within them and achieve success!.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 14 months agoin reply to this

      Excellent answer, the small family system is IMMENSELY BENEFICIAL to children emotionally, intellectually, financially, & psychologically.   Large families breed nothing but poverty, abuse, delinquency, teen pregnancy & other pathologies.  SP