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Is it right for the parents to impose their aspirations on their kids ?

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    Lakshmi k menonposted 13 months ago

    Is it right for the parents to impose their aspirations on their kids ?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 13 months ago


    Personally speaking I believe a child should be allowed to follow his or her own dreams. However it's not uncommon for well meaning and not so well meaning parents to act as "dream killers" in order to stir their children to take a "safe route".
    Naturally more parents would rather encourage their children to become doctors than rock & roll or rap stars!
    In some instances parents live vicariously through their children. Maybe they were not able to live out their own dream and now want their kids to take up their baton to "finish the race".
    Ultimately as long as we live under our parent's roof we generally have to abide by their rules.
    Once we move out we're legally "free" to do as we please.
    Instead of "rebelling" I played the "model citizen" and counted down the years until I graduated and went away to college.
    I never moved back home. In fact I moved 2000 miles away.
    Life is a (personal) journey!

  3. gmwilliams profile image87
    gmwilliamsposted 13 months ago


    A STRONG EMPHATIC NO!  However, parents have been imposing their aspirations on their children from millennia.  Remember, parents can only teach their children from their own purview.  That is, parents who have limited consciousness will teach their children to have limited aspirations.  Parents who have wider consciousness will guide their children accordingly. 

    Educated, affluent parents oftentimes teach their children to aim.....high while less educated, poorer parents teach their children to have "realistic" goals.  Also, there are many parents who DON'T want their children to go higher than they did.  These parents are of the school that if they are moderately successful, their kids will also be moderately successful.  Such parents are threatened if their children show higher success potential than they did.  They believe that if their children become very successful, they will upset the familial apple cart so to speak.  So these parents will do anything do sabotage their children's chances for success.

    There are parents who believe what was good enough for them is good enough for their children.  These parents will try to steer their children to their traditional, familial occupation although the children have indicated ad infinitum that they AREN'T interested.  These parents will either subtly or forcefully compel their children into such occupations to carry on the familial name & legacy.  Oftentimes, these children will reluctantly be in such traditional, familial occupations because it is a safe route but they are unhappy.  Some will lead gray, monotonous gray career lives of utter desperation while a few, in one way or another, will demonstrate their disinterest & will either be forced to resign, quit, or be fired.

    Then there are parents who had unfulfilled aspirations & want their children to live the former's dreams instead of their own.  There is the poor parent who didn't get a chance to be a lawyer & will force his/her child to be THAT lawyer although the child has a more artistic bent.  Children should PURSUE & LIVE their dreams, not their parents. This explains why the majority of people DISLIKE, even HATE their jobs as their career choices weren't of their own making but of their parents & family.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 13 months agoin reply to this

      "Also, there are many parents who DON'T want their children to go higher than they did." Very true!
      Many of them also don't believe it's possible. They couldn't imagine it for themselves and therefore they don't see it for their children either.

    2. gmwilliams profile image87
      gmwilliamsposted 13 months agoin reply to this

      There is an ENVY that some parents have against their children, especially if their children have MORE TALENTS & OPPORTUNITIES than the former did.  There are parents who gave backhanded compliments i.e. "you have it soooo easy- a tad of E-N-V-Y!