How do tell someone they are getting you stressed out

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   etauntontvposted 14 years ago

   it's not easy but i know i have to tell someone that they are driving me crazy.  They keep saying negative things to me. like stop looking at them .  be quiet .  stop complaining.
   
   this is my home and I feel like I want to run away!  yes I am talking about my children

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      liljen23posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You just tell them how you feel and tell them why you feel the way you do. Tell them not to take offense but something has to get done and that you need order in the house. I don't have any kids but I have cared for my young brothers since birth and I have talked to them, disciplined them by taking things away from them and using a firm hand, and told them that I am the grown up and to show me respect and I will show them respect..I also reward them for their chores and grades because they earned it and I told them that they have to earn their right to have things. You just have to put your foot down..

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      lorlie6posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      How old are your kids?

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   akirchnerposted 14 years ago

   No matter what age, I think kids should treat we the breadwinners, house 'bosses' with respect.  If they feel that way, then they should be the ones to leave or go to a quiet spot, not you, the adult.  However, a time-out, break from people on any level annoying us is not a bad thing! 
   
   It is important that kids express themselves - I always say though, it's not what you say but how you say it.  There should not be a place for kids to get the upper hand on adults as I see so often in stores, etc.  I overhear kids and the way that they talk to their parents and it makes me sad.  There is a happy medium between 'expressing yourself' and being downright rude! Kids are being allowed (in my humble opinion) to be just that - rude!  No - we always DON'T get our way; sometimes life isn't a picnic; there are rules in life we have to follow. 
   
   I think all these things can be taught to kids at any age and should be.  If they are not, what you have is a bunch of angry, self-centered people running our society! I think we have enough of those to be honest - so my theory is to start at home and make sure that YOU are polite in expressing your deepest feelings to others, but in turn, that you EXPECT politeness in return.  It's okay to feel bad about someone or be angry at them - it is how you deal with it that matters - and the respect that you show others.

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      lorlie6posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      You're so right, akirchner, what I should have mentioned is that I am having 'issues' with my adult child.  Long story.

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      etauntontvposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      what good advice you give ...be polite to teens .  Well that works and then they tell you stop talking to them...  I don't want to go with you ...you complain to much...that is the answers i get?   Now what do you say

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   Ohmaposted 14 years ago

   Tough love, Like Dr. Phil says everyone has a currency. You said at least one of them is an adult. He is probably setting the example the others are following. Set him straight and the rest will fall in line.

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