Are kinky web-sites a sign of intent to cheat or infidelity?

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   Bravebird30posted 13 years ago

   I caught my man looking at a porn pix but I'm not surprised or even mad.  I actually enjoy porn.  But, he tried to hide the pix when I came in the room. Weird!  When he was gone I checked his internet search history and found he's signed up for dating sites for transexuals and shemales.  I wasn't prepared for that.  Of course trust is most important in a relationship, so I dare not tell him but WTF?????

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      goldenpathposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      It doesn't matter if one is male or female indulging in lascivious entertainment will lead one from one degree of degradation to the next.  It is inevitable.  It causes one to hide and be deceitful.  It also causes a heightened awareness or self conscious state in which one is always "looking" over their shoulder. 
      
      This behavior in not good in him or you.  Nothing healthy will come of it.

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      Shadesbreathposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      Do you not see the irony here?
      
      I think you two need to talk.  Like real talk, not that fake kind where "open-mindedness" really means that you are pissed off and want him to admit what he's doing wrong.  If he's into that stuff, maybe he's finding stuff out about himself that both of you don't want to say outloud.  Hiding from it won't make it go away.  Maybe he's just bored and amusing himself.  Find out why he's bored.  Might be something you're doing that is driving him away.  Not saying there is, just saying, if you're going to talk, really talk.  Requires some backbone, but worth it to know what's truly going on without finger pointing.

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      IntimatEvolutionposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I think it is a sign that they are missing something from their lives.  Only arrogant people, afraid to look at themselves as the problem, would think it to be cheating.  That's my opinion.

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      CBM1987posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I signed up for a couple different sites... sheer boredom. But out of all honesty I wasn't thinking about cheating personally I just wanted that ego boost. The oh well somebody wants me well too bad!
      Truthfully for a guy especially coming home to somebody whos always griping or telling him he can't do a damn thing right. It gets old and it gets old real quick. Though I would never cheat I've done everything possible to keep us going for the sake of my daughter.
      Honestly though porn is something most guys look at and its not because they are sick of their own lady in the next room. Just something in us I guess.
      So you gotta ask yourself first what may have caused him to go for the dating sites.
      For me my relationships burning to the ground, but uh partially because she wont forgive me and though I acknowledge I was wrong to do so at the same time she wont even work it out in any way shape or form. So thats where I'm at these days all because silly little sites and the ego boost/ attention I craved

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 13 years ago

   that's too bad....calmly, you both need to have a discussion....bring it all out of the closet....it'll be better for both of you in the short and long term.

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   camloposted 13 years ago

   I know I have a couple of little fettishes I'd never, ever tell anyone about - not that I think there's anything wrong with it, I'm just sure others would get the wrong end of the stick if I did speak about it.
   The Internet does give us the opportunity to live them out to a degree. I don't really see any harm in it ... not that I do it, of course ...

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