How would you terminate the stay of a relative who has overstayed their welcome?

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   Jefsaidposted 13 years ago

   How would you terminate the stay of a relative who has overstayed their welcome?
   
   Being from a very family oriented background, I have on a couple of occasions agreed to having unfamiliar relatives stay at my home only to find they have no planned leaving date or completely took advantage of our hospitality.  On both occasions I was in limbo between the happiness of my household versus the views of my wider family and my wife had to intervene with less than pleasant outcomes.  Has anyone faced this dilemma and how did you deal with it?
   
   

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   Gypsy Willowposted 13 years ago

   I would say that as much as we have enjoyed your stay we have to leave for a break of our own and hope you will be able to come again next year /next century. Just call to find out when it's convenient. (never!)
   Guests are like fish, after 3 days they stink! (Confucious I think!)

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   Mrs. J. B.posted 13 years ago

   When you invited them to stay, you did not talk about time frame?
   Tell them straight out, it is time for you to go.

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   juice76posted 13 years ago

   To be honest I usually ask them how long they plan on staying I don't mind if they stay alittle bit however I don't want them that. You are doing them a favor by allowing them to stay plus you helped them out so you don' t really owe them anything,

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   Uni_teposted 13 years ago

   It depends on the situation. If they've done something unforgivably wrong, and you want them the HELL out of your house, then pack their bags, put them on the front porch, and video tape the looks on their faces when they get home.
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   If they're nice, and you don't want to hurt them, only wish to have your house quiet and your own again, then I'd maybe take them out to dinner, and have a serious conversation about their staying at your house. No hard feelings, and even offer to help them find a new place in the area that is affordable and meets living standards.

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   duffsmomposted 13 years ago

   I have had house guests that are not family stay longer than welcome.  I was much younger.  If it happened now, I would sit them down over hot coffee and be honest with them.  Tell them that their visit has run its course and you need to get your family back on track.
   
   You are the head of your household, so your family outside your house should not be able to dictate to you what you do.  If it is important to them, let them house the relative.  Your responsibility is to your own family first--keeping them happy and protected.

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