How to deal with a jealous relative when you meet him/her at a family function a

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   dipsmiposted 11 years ago

   How to deal with a jealous relative when you meet him/her at a family function and cannot avoid him.

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   cruelkindnessposted 11 years ago

   If you don't acknowledge them at all.  Not even respond to the things they say behind close doors.  Do not talk about them to others or if someone else you know brings to your attention what he or she has said.  Just laugh it off, with no response. They will stop, you ignoring them makes them feel unworthy of your time.

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      cruelkindnessposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You won't have to point out the fool in the room.  People can see.

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   Man from Modestoposted 11 years ago

   Return evil with good. No matter what scowls or slander come your way, say nothing. Sometimes, a good gift can change things around completely.
   
   I had something like this: I broke an engagement with a woman in the same denomination as me. She went on a raging campaign of slander. I said nothing.
   
   This is what happened: everyone who knew something bad about her began to report it. She thought it was me saying those things... and started up even worse.
   
   I still said nothing but kind things.
   
   More and more bad truths came out about her. Finally, one of the leaders in the church, speaking at a conference mentioned the entire affair, without names. She came looking like a gold digger. I looked like a saintly victim. That ended the entire thing.
   
   "Do unto others as you would have done unto you."
   
   And remember, most times, the way people treat you is about them, not you. Consider that this unhappy person might really just need a friend, or someone to talk to in trust, or maybe just someone who acknowledges what is good about them.
   
   More recently, a woman at a volunteer group did not like me. The Holy Spirit told me it was because she perceived that I only saw the part of her that was a barrier, a defensive wall.
   
   The next time I saw her, I gave a big, "Hello, Susan!" (not her real name). She changed her attitude completely. She even offered to bring me some coffee!
   
   Love conquers all.

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      dipsmiposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I tried not to say anything. She said I was silent because I was guilty!

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      Man from Modestoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      dipsmi, Hold your ground. My ordeal with the ex-fiancee lasted a month and a half. It was constant, too. If you know something good about her, mention it to others.
      
      If you really did do something wrong. Stay silent and let it blow over.

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   Laugh at them. If they are jealous, they have done something wrong in their life to feel envious of others. Part of them is incomplete and they need to fix that. It is a fault in their brain, not yours. So I would take advantage of that fact.

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   edhanposted 11 years ago

   Let bygones be bygones.
   
   It is unhealthy to bear grudges. Take a deep breath and release out all your frustration that you may still have for your relative. Treat him/her like any of your friends or other relatives. Being sincere to him/her may soon change the altitude towards you.

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      glmclendonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you. Life moves too fast to get in the mud  and mess up your mind, be nice!

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