Should we be in long distance relationship?

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   sandeep15rposted 9 years ago

   Should we be in long distance relationship?
   
   At some point, couples who are in long distance relationship get frustrated due to complications caused by long distance. Does it worth to be in LDR? How can you overcome those complications?
   
   

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   Cynthia Hooverposted 9 years ago

   Statistically it never really works out in the end. To much fear of the partner cheating and lack of trust. Inevitably you grow apart, each seeking interactions to keep your mind occupied and then of course the possibility of adopting feelings for another person.  These relationships usually end.

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      sandeep15rposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      But what if two persons are synced very well? I have seen many couples who are staying together and quarrelling all the time. They say, " if you can make it in long distance, you can make it through the worst." Though, for me, LDR itself is the worst

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   You must define what is "making a long distance relationship work." Do you mean it leads to a marriage or is it just a certain amount of time as in a year, two years, or three years...etc?
   The vast majority of couples in long distance relationships have no timeline or plan for when they will be together permanently. Long distance relationships were meant to be temporary.
   The goal is to be with the person you love. When there is no "count down" towards the day when one person moves it's likely one of you will eventually want to throw in the towel.
   At some point someone has to make a move. A long distance relationship without “a light at the end of the tunnel” is likely to fail.
   It’s the counting down the months, weeks, and days until you are finally done with the inconvenience of being in a long distance relationship that keeps it strong.
   The only reason for being in a long distance relationship is the belief she or he might be “the one”. If you’re just passing the time with someone you might as well do that locally.

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      sandeep15rposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Abosulety agree! if there is no time line to be together, one person is more likely to call it off. Thanks for such a wonderful answer.

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   Aime Fposted 9 years ago

   I agree that there needs to be a timeline. My (now husband) and I were in a long distance relationship for a year before I moved, it worked because we had planned for me to move at one point and worked towards it.
   
   Had neither of us been willing to move then I definitely think it would have ended. It was hard enough even knowing we would be together at some point.

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      sandeep15rposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, Aime, the timeline is a must. Without it, one will certainly quit. Sometimes, it feels really frustrating in LDR When the couples have all the complications of being in a relationship, but don't have the joy of being together.

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