How do you stop your neighbors kids from coming over all the time,without being

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   chuckandus6posted 9 years ago

   How do you stop your neighbors kids from coming over all the time,without being rude?
   
   my neighbors kids come over and they act like they live here taking,Food without asking and won't listen when I tell them they have to go home .it's too much.what is a good approach other than locking the door?and hiding.I don't mind if they play outside and come in for a little while.

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   Holly Jenkinsposted 9 years ago

   It's best to just be upfront and tell them you have rules in your home that they must respect if they wish to come over and let them know EXACTLY what those rules are. Tell them that if they don't respect your home, they will not be allowed to play. Kids normally respect rules, and chances are they don't have any at their own home. However, make sure your kids help enforce the rules as well. Setting clear boundaries doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you an adult.

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Good points holly,I will try to be stern when I tell them .  I get that feeling that their mom doesn't make them.do anything, which is Sad.

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   Lori P.posted 9 years ago

   It's not rude to be firm about the ground rules you set for your home. Remember, they are children. You are the adult. They have parents who obviously are not teaching them manners. You can't change that, but you can expect them to be respectful while in your home.
   
   "Excuse me, but it's not polite to take food without asking first." or "I have a snack for you all prepared." or "If you're hungry, you need to go home to eat."
   "No one takes food without asking."
   "It's time to go home. If you don't respect my request, you won't be allowed to come inside next time."
   "Do I need to phone your mother?"
   "No one plays indoors today. Sorry."
   
   And I would lock the door. No one enters without your permission. It is NOT being rude, for heaven's sake. Would you let your children do this to someone else? Do you let your children ignore your requests? They are children. Treat them as such.

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you no,my children would never act like this, I have to put my foot down.I tell them to go home to eat but sad they really don't listen, at all.I don't mind giving them a snack or two but it's way beyond that.

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   Alphadogg16posted 9 years ago

   I agree with Lori P, Its definitely not rude to set guidelines/rules to your house, with friends, neighbors, relatives, or anyone else for that matter.

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   peachpurpleposted 9 years ago

   tell them to follow your home rules; ask before take, teach them manners. If they can't take it, they will know.

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      That's what I am trying but they literally get hysterical when told no,or just ignore Me. Although I'm sure repetition is the key,but Its Frustrating.I am so thankful my kids do not behave this way.I would be pulling out my hair.

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