Wolf Whistling/A compliment or is it harassment?

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   sallybeaposted 9 years ago

   Wolf Whistling/A compliment or is it harassment?
   
   Should women learn to love the wolf-whistle again?
   
   What has your experience been, as either that of the whistler or the lady on the receiving end of one?
   
   

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   tsmogposted 9 years ago

   I do not do wolf whistling myself. I think it can be both a compliment and harassment. The trick is both the delivery and the deliverer. I think firstly if I could whistle I may offer a wolf whistle with a 'Friend', but probably not with a stranger. I kinda' think that would be a little arrogant in a sense while also drawing unneeded attention toward the person the whistle is directed toward. Communication of the compliment may be lost with interpretation.

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      sallybeaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I do agree with you, but I do wonder sometimes if there should be an upper age which is considered appropriate for the person doing the whistling:)

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I don't want to be whistled at by Aanyone but my guy and he does not whistle at anyone but ME.I think it is a creepy,arrogant obnoxious thing to do at any age ,to a stranger.

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      sallybeaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Nichol marie
      Thank goodness I don't live anywhere near a building site!  I don't think I would enjoy it much if I was with a boyfriend and there were whisles coming my way.

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      Dressage Husbandposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      About 12!

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      sallybeaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds a little early to branch out into this type of behaviour.  I think we should be teaching young lads of this age to respect women no matter what their age.

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   Nicole Grizzleposted 9 years ago

   It's creepy to me. Especially when you are alone and a stranger approaches you as if they have "intent".
   
   I'd err on the side if never doing it to strangers, and do it to friends you are positive that they are comfortable with. Like, if I had a boyfriend it'd be a-ok with me.

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      sallybeaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for sharing your view.  I think it might be very threatening if it were done by a group of men but,  the one on his own might make it even more scary as you say.

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   I've never been one to "ogle", "cat call", or "wolf whistle" at women.
   I suspect "harassment" like a lot of things is in the eye of the beholder. If  a woman is attracted to a man she might feel flattered and she's not attracted to him she may view it as harassment. Only that woman can determine.
   Two men can say or do the same thing but if the woman is "into that guy" she won't consider (his) actions to be harassment.
   The vast majority of guys that do "cat call" or "wolf whistle" rarely actually approach the woman to initiate a conversation. It's almost as if they were driving along and saw a sign on the woman that read "honk if you think I'm beautiful". I imagine there must be some women who silently smile when guys make a fool out of themselves.

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      sallybeaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      A little like a bird preening their feathers and checking out the competition, perhaps!  I like your interpretation.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Great answer, dashing!  Yes, it seems to me to only happen if one if walking past a construction crew at work.  They are not close and just admiring a lovely woman it seems.

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      sallybeaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I think that is probably how most people regard it Faith.  Has sexism gone wrong.  Some people say it is a little harmful fun but others certainly don't?

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   brakel2posted 9 years ago

   I haven't heard of wolf whistles for a long time. When I was young, I was sometimes flattered by that whistle. unless it was a stranger. People seem to prefer the whistle from someone they know. At least I did, and felt scared if it was a stranger, especially a seedy character.Many guys just whistled at anyone. I wonder if those whistles are coming back.

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      sallybeaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I have listened to two radio programs recently on which they were talking about wolf whistles.  The impression I got was that there are some women who are vehemently against it, others feel flattered by it.

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   alikhan3posted 9 years ago

   Nothing more then a smile a whistler can expect in return ...

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      sallybeaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Nothing wrong with a smile returned:)

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   M. T. Dremerposted 9 years ago

   While I am sure someone, somewhere, likes to hear wolf whistles, I would say it falls into the harassment category. The woman was not asking for the response, or the attention of a stranger. Some might argue that certain attire implies she is asking for that kind of attention, but online videos have proven women get those responses even when dressed in a non-provocative manner. Anything that is a repeated, unwanted intrusion into your day would qualify as harassment.

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      sallybeaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I think that just about sums this up perfectly. Thanks for your comment.

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