Why is that her name comes to my mind so often?

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   biochemexpertposted 7 years ago

   Why is that her name comes to my mind so often?
   
   Few months ago I was in love with a girl. She was my best, cutest, sweetest friend. We both met online and fell in love with each other. We proposed each other but for a reason, we decided to break up. Our break up was a mutual decision but it hurt both of us. Now we don't talk each other, we don't chat each other, we don't see each other. However, I still miss her and I still love her. Its been a long time since we broken up but her name still comes to my mind so often. Knowingly or unknowlingly her name always comes in my mind not necessarily verbally but I always call her name in my mind.

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   yasmin kposted 7 years ago

   Maybe you should text her, see how she is. If the split was mutual, she most likely wont mind.
   
   If your still thinking of her months later and if you know that you could be good to her and for her. Why not try to patch the situation up and start again.
   
   Good luck.

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      biochemexpertposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      no! my friend that can't be possible. I tried my possible to reach her but I couldn't. my text message can't reach her, my call can't reach her. No matter how hard I try I can't reach her unless she wants me to reach her. Its all depends on her. I ju

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      yasmin kposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Has she blocked your number?
      
      Without meaning to be too intrusive why did you break up?

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      biochemexpertposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes! she has blocked me from everywhere because I asked her to block me.  Our love was so spiritual but we couldn't get married each other. and that's the reason we broke up but I still feel not less than before.

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      yasmin kposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I'm sorry to hear of your predicament. I'm sure she probably also thinks of you.
      
      It really does suck when people can't be together because of external factors.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   "Our break up was a (mutual) decision..." 
   Sounds like someone's lying to them self!
   I've yet to hear of any couple waking up one morning and saying (together): "Lets breakup!" "You read my mind!"
   Generally (one person) suggests breaking up and the other either (sadly goes along with it) or attempts to change their mind.
   "I still miss her and I still love her. Knowingly or unknowingly her name always comes in my mind not necessarily verbally but I always call her name in my mind."
   Sounds like (you) were on the losing end of the breakup.
   Since you didn't want to end the relationship in the first place it's only natural for you to look back on it with "rose tinted glasses".
   In order to "move on" you have to "let go".
   People don't end "wonderful relationships" just for the hell of it.
   In order for your (ex) to haven been "the one" she would have had to see (you) as being "the one"! At the very least a "soul-mate" is someone who actually WANTS to be with you!
   (And vice versa).
   "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
   - Oscar Wilde
   If someone (dumps you) they clearly don't think you're all that special! In your comment answer you said: "No matter how hard I try I can't reach her unless she wants me to reach her."
   That pretty much tells you all you need to know.
   Thankfully we live on a planet with (7 Billion) other people!
   Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you.
   Every ending is a new beginning!
   Best wishes!

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      yasmin kposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      There could be multiple reasons why the relationship ended on a mutual level. Such as conflicting religions, family principles or distance.
      
      Albeit, should the reasoning be any of the above he will still have to let it go.

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      dashingscorpioposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Breakups happen when someone isn't (happy).
      Two people "in love" can overcome conflicting religions, family, and distance if (both people) want to.
      This breakup was not "mutual".
      Just read his comments under your answer.
      (She) doesn't want him!

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      biochemexpertposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah! it was not actually a mutual decision but I had to accept that. I was on the losing end. I didn't want to lose her but I wasn't given any other choice. I saw the hell after that. It was like an earthquake and aftershock in my brain.

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      dashingscorpioposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Shrawan, Thanks for taking the time to post your comment to clear this up. Eventually over time you will meet someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are.
      Hopefully she'll also be local.
      Best wishes!

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