What makes you understand that the person is lying or telling the truth?

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   Debangee Mandalposted 7 years ago

   What makes you understand that the person is lying or telling the truth?
   
   I think it is the eyes which speaks more than words. But most of the time I am deceived. Please help me with your experience.
   
   

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   Ashish Dadgaaposted 7 years ago

   @ Debangee,
   
   Very nice question. As you said the eye is the one best way to know that another person is lying but besides that, you can observe by his/her body language. How he/she is presenting their point in front of you. How much there are trying to convince you to prove their lie truth. Or you can judge by their hands if an innocent person is lying for something then he/she must be trembling.

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      Debangee Mandalposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Very true Ashish, well said!

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      Ashish Dadgaaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You are welcome

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   Terrielynn1posted 7 years ago

   One way is if they give too much detail when you ask them a question. It usually means they were thinking about what they were going to say before they talked to you. Some people fidget and others thier chest goes red and they blush when they lie. Others won't look you right in the eye.

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      Debangee Mandalposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes the first point is a very valid one, thank you.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   
   
   The best way of knowing if someone is lying to is by having spent a great deal of time with them so that you know their "telltale signs".
   In other instances you ask a question and there is a pregnant pause before they give you an answer, or they ask you why you're asking... to stall until they can come up with something.
   Some people show a sheepish grin or do a nervous laughter before composing themselves while others act insulted, angry, or defensive because you asked the question.
   Others avoid direct eye contact or they physically seem "uncomfortable" and start to move around the room (as if going to get something) while talking to you.
   Note: Some people are aware of the "avoiding eye contact" sign so they will do the opposite by staring into your eyes (without blinking). Essentially they're overcompensating!
   Sometimes people will give you a "quick answer" and then attempt to pivot off of the subject by bringing up a "new topic" or asking you about something completely unrelated.
   I once saw a movie where a male character got busted for cheating on his girlfriend.
   He said: "I lie to you because I care about your feelings!"
   I suspect one of the motives why people lie is because they don't want others to think about them a certain way or they fear they wouldn't be liked or loved if people knew the truth.
   More often than not people like impress others/get ahead or to avoid pain/punishment.
   Never (force yourself) to trust anyone. The onus is on them to (earn) your trust!
   If something doesn't (feel) "right" to you it's probably not right for (you). Don't ignore "red flags" or your gut instincts.

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      Debangee Mandalposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      That was an excellent speech..

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   KsenijaZposted 7 years ago

   Yes, eyes, wondering here and there. Other body languages. But it's not always that easy, some people are great liars. Mostly I just get some feeling that something is not ok. Someone once told me - if you want to know if someone is telling the truth, ask him to tell you the same story again but backward

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      Debangee Mandalposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Well written, thank you so much.

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   threekeysposted 7 years ago

   Some people are very good liars. They can look you directly into your eyes and hold  an expression that doesn't give anything away. And some people are just able to get away with their lies, where some people cannot. They say,  if someone lies to you about the little things in life you can never trust them with the big issues of your life. Lies of ommission and economical truths are just as hurtful or misleading. In trying to acertain if someone is lying to you? Takes time and practice and even then you may not know. But basically, if it just doesnt add up. If it doesnt feel right. There are also body language signs that can help to give you clues along the way.

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      Debangee Mandalposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes truly some people are really good liars, thanks again.

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   manatita44posted 7 years ago

   It is a hard one, but I can tell you that deceit is easier, when we love flattery and most of us do. Flattery can be meaningful and truthful or close to the truth with some embellishments added. It can also be way off. If he says that you are extremely beautiful, loving and kind. Is that you? Might be, but the point here is to assess his truth in relation to yours. See if it's too far out.
   
   I knew one guy who wanted to marry a girl the moment he met her. But he played on her vulnerability, made many promises, got what he wanted and left.
   
   How do we know? At best, I will say that there are good guesses and finally intuition. Repetition can be a no, no. The eyes, like you said and the dropping of the head. Great liars do not do this. I know of two cases where the guys were so good that one woman gave away about $1200 and the second was about to part with $2, 200. They both knew each other, (a life saver) but only one of the two guys, who also knew each other.
   
   Women lie too, naturally. In your case, perhaps you are seeking a relationship. A monk told me only yesterday that he gave counsel to a devout scholar who was cheating on his wife. I say this to let you know that to err is human and being religious will not necessarily make any difference. Do the old fashioned thing: Dating.
   
   Dating with alertness, asking decent questions and not rushing, will force the partner to reveal himself/herself sooner or later. We cannot truly hide character. It is the sum total of our personality and would be fairly easy to tell with time and an intuitive feel. Stay awake! But yes, faced with society's pressures, this can be a very difficult thing to do.

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      acmremovalsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      very nice article .

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      Debangee Mandalposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes women lie too and there are several examples.

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   nidurposted 7 years ago

   iskrenost ili istina je draocjeni poklon ne ocekujte ga od jeftinih ljudi !

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