Is it wrong to hold a door open for someone?

1. 60

   LaViejaposted 14 years ago

   I like it when someone opens a door for me, or offers me their seat. Am I politically incorrect? I expect to give up my seat to an old age pensioner, pregnant lady, child, but don't often see it happen. Why doesn't it? Isn't it just polite?

   replyreport
   1. 58

      Diskobolosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      It's not wrong, but it can be cheesy.

      replyreport
   2. 60

      Vladimir Uhriposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Political correct is political garbage. It is communistic correct.

      replyreport
2. 69

   Bill Manningposted 14 years ago

   I open doors for ladies, men, kids, whatever. As for why most don't seem to give up their seats for others, I think it's the attitude of today.
   
   People don't want to get involved with anyone else. Or, so damn many get all upset when you try to help them that people become afraid to help others.

   replyreport
   1. 58

      Diskobolosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Bill, let me guess, you work as a doorman?

      replyreport
      1. 69

         Bill Manningposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Haha! No, I work at home actually. It's just,,, why not? I'm in no hurry, yet everyone else seems to be. So go ahead, rush in and let me hold the door open for ya while I take my sweet time!

         replyreport
   2. 60

      LaViejaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Good to know I am not the only one who does it. Sometimes I think maybe its a bit of fear. Certainly in London where we are always told to be on high alert for suspicious things/people it doesn't really encourage any interaction - however innocent.

      replyreport
3. 0

   sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

   Only if your intention is to get a good look at their butt.

   replyreport
4. 57

   yoshi97posted 14 years ago

   It's only wrong when there is a hungry predator behind the door.

   replyreport
5. 68

   MikeNVposted 14 years ago

   Is it wrong to be polite?
   
   I've never had anyone be anything but polite to me when I hold a door open. And there have been other times when I have been pleasantly surprised by someone doing it for me.

   replyreport
6. 79

   Uninvited Writerposted 14 years ago

   I always open doors for people (male and female)...not many say thank you.

   replyreport
   1. 0

      sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you.

      replyreport
      1. 53

         Cathy Suttonposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Thank you!
         
         Although some many years ago, the first person who had opened the door for me found himself holding it for approximately 1 minute. (No kidding!) His persistence paid off, for I finally went through that door totally shocked, but at the same time awed.  My dad had never done that, so I did not know what to expect, but I liked it.
         
         So in summary, some people may not understand it, but give them time.  Then they will, and they will like it. What will they  like? They will like the courtesy and respect shown in this very act of kindness.  It shows a placing of others before oneself which is opposite the way the self-centered world thinks today.  (Just drive 30 minutes on any well traveled road if you don't agree with me.)
         
         So, I say keep it up.  It may not change the world... and then again, if enough do it, it just might.  Pass it on!

         replyreport
   2. 63

      Money Glitchposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I do the same thing Uninvited Writer and you're right some don't even acknowledge your act of kindness. For this reason, I always make a point to give a big smile and "thank you" when someone opens the door for me.

      replyreport
   3. 58

      dogluver1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Some dont say thank you to me either.

      replyreport
7. 0

   cosetteposted 14 years ago

   me too! it's just the polite thing to do.

   replyreport
8. 57

   zzronposted 14 years ago

   Of course not.Is it wrong to offer me a million dollars ? Of course not. Any act of kindness should be welcomed by all. Its not every day you see someone else being courteous and thoughtful and helpful of others. http://hubpages.com/_1jlnpyoil2g4b/hub/rudepeople

   replyreport
9. 0

   girly_girl09posted 14 years ago

   I think it is really nice, polite and certainly the correct thing to do. In fact, I am shocked when I see people not being polite by opening the door or offering up their seat to the elderly, etc. If a date does not open and hold the door for me, I find it truly bizarre and see it as an indicator that the guy either has no manners and probably wasn't raised right. Also, I like it when the guy opens the car door too, although that is becoming more rare these days.
   
   My parents signed me up for an etiquette course when I was about 12 or so and I remember the 'unit' on holding doors LOL
   
   One of the questions was something to the effect of: If you're out on a date with someone and they do not open the door you should:
   a.) wait until they do.
   b.) ask them to open the door.
   c.) open the door yourself.
   
   The correct answer was A, but I argued with the instructor that it could get awkward and I'd rather just open the door! hahaha
   
   Anyways, I think it is a very nice gesture and there is certainly nothing 'politically incorrect' about it.

   replyreport
10. 83

    SweetiePieposted 14 years ago

    I once opened the door for an elderly couple, and after that about ten people walked through.  I think they thought I was a door opener or something .

    replyreport
    1. 69

       waynetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hahaha same here! sort of like when you lend someone money, then all of their friends start asking for money and then their friends of friends start asking you for money like you're a bank!

       replyreport
       1. 83

          SweetiePieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          When I was in my early twenties I used to feel really bad several men who were at the bus stop and told me they were out of money, and needed help with bus fare.  I gave out a few dollars here and there until one man told me he saw this scam they used to play.  They would go up to people and ask for change, tell a sob story, and then walk over to the liquor store and buy booze.  He said several made about two hundred or so dollars a day doing this LOL.

          replyreport
11. 59

    dfunzyposted 14 years ago

    If they're tipping, no.

    replyreport
12. 58

    dogluver1posted 14 years ago

    I hold doors open for everyoe I come across. And offer people seats on the train and bus.

    replyreport
13. 61

    K Partinposted 14 years ago

    I always hold the door for anyone, just the way I was brought up! But if they don't say thanks I tell them you're welcome! Usually they'll say Oh I'm sorry.

    replyreport
14. 64

    kmackey32posted 14 years ago

    I wish a man would hold a door open for me....

    replyreport
    1. 61

       K Partinposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I would! No problemo.

       replyreport
       1. 64

          kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          well thank you. You mean you wouldnt steal from me, my kids or hit me? It seems those are the only kind of men I ever meet. Kinda strange...

          replyreport
          1. 61

             K Partinposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             That's too bad, there are allot of low-life's out there. I wish you luck.

             replyreport
             1. 64

                kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                yup. Ive met everyone but I think this year is time for a change.....

                replyreport
          2. 58

             Diskobolosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Maybe because that is the kind of men you subconsciously were looking for.

             replyreport
    2. 0

       sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I'll bet it's usually a fight to get there first!

       replyreport
15. 55

    Play Free Gamesposted 14 years ago

    Yesturday my wife was in a wheel chair for the first time. We when to one of the largest shopping malls in the world. I never noticed before how nice people really can be. I never once had to worry about opening doors. It was like a competition to see who could get to the door to open it first. It wasn't only doors. People where respectful everywhere in the busy mall to make sure we could get around. (This was kids, teenagers, adults of all ages)
    My point is that this should be for everyone. Opening a door for anyone makes a person feel good. (handicapped or not)

    replyreport
    1. 64

       kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       This is true.

       replyreport
    2. 79

       Uninvited Writerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I find when I walk with my cane that people jump to open doors, but when I adon't have my cane they don't People act completely differently.

       replyreport
       1. 0

          sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I'd open any door for you.

          replyreport
16. 79

    elayne001posted 14 years ago

    Even after being married for almost 40 years, I appreciate my husband opening my door. Of course I can do it myself, but it makes me feel good and he enjoys it. As far as other people go, I always appreciate a helping hand getting through a door although sometimes it can be a bit awkward.

    replyreport
17. 92

    habeeposted 14 years ago

    Thank God chivalry is not dead - at least here in the South. Men always hold the door open for me, and I always say thank you. I'm sure it's still alive in other locales, too, but I just haven't been there to see it.

    replyreport
18. 61

    K Partinposted 14 years ago

    Maybe we should pass a law, "Please open and hold doors for others! " Huh?

    replyreport
    1. 0

       sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hear!Hear!

       replyreport
19. 79

    Uninvited Writerposted 14 years ago

    I still remember once when I had a full leg cast and had to stand on the subway to and from work almost every day. It was not pleasant.
    
    It's funny but I find it's mostly women who will say thank you when you open a door.
    
    And usually women who hold doors open. Of course, there are always exceptions.

    replyreport
20. 92

    habeeposted 14 years ago

    Well, DUH, UW! Everyone knows women are nicer than men!
    
    (Holle taking cover now under the computer desk!)

    replyreport
    1. 68

       emievilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       
       
       Seriously, I hold doors open also for other people and I always receive a thank you. But I don't expect other people to hold the doors for me. I think that they think that I'm more than capable of barging through a door by myself what with my built and all .

       replyreport
21. 63

    Wayne Orvisburgposted 14 years ago

    I do it. Just seems like a nice thing to do. I actually have more people open doors for me.

    replyreport
22. 83

    Don Wposted 14 years ago

    Bill Manning you look incredibly smooth. do you wax at all?

    replyreport
23. 61

    jessicabposted 14 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with  holding the door for someone, its when you let the door go and let it swing is what angers me.I hold the door open for people all time male or female, young and old.

    replyreport