Should men hold the door for ladies?
Courtesy calls for men to hold the door open for ladies and yet on a number of occasions, I have been scolded for my efforts.
Some ladies seem to maintain that my holding the door open indicates a chauvinist attitude towards the "fairer" sex. I disagree.
Has the time come for quaint courtesies to be disposed of and how would I know when to hold the door and when not??
I always hold the door for Ladies. This is what I watched my Father do and his Father do all of my life. So, This what I will continue to do. I think it is so rude to let a door slam in someone's face. Male or Female.
I always hold the door for everyone male, female, young and old. It just basic courtesy in my view. It's unfortunate that anyone should take offense.
Men should hold the door open for anyone who is coming, so should women. Those females who believe that men who hold doors for them are being chauvanistic, are leading very sad lives and need to remove the planks from their shoulders.
This woman appreciates small acts of chivalry.
Yes, hold the door open, open the car door.................
I am a woman. I appreciate it when a man holds a door open for me. But, I also appreciate when another woman does. I do the same for either sex. While I am no spring chicken myself, I try to be particularly courteous to the elderly and the infirm and sometimes to young mothers struggling with babies and strollers and shopping bags, etc. To my way of thinking, it is not about chivalry but really just about being nice to others. I have tried to raise my young men to do the same. Sometimes it is just fun to watch their reaction when someone compliments them on their manners or to watch the reaction of others when someone much younger holds the door open for them.
ideally yes men should hold the door for ladies. not only is it a chivalrous or gentlemanly thing to do, it is also common courtesy. holding a door open isn't a difficult task and can make someone's day so why not just go the extra mile. however, the way times have changed chivalry in a sense is kind of dead so most women no longer expect men to hold the door open just as men are no longer technically required to hold it open, but it still is a nice gesture and they do appreciate it.
Men should hold the door open for ladies. Unless it is an automatic door. Or they are mean.
kindness and courtesy are not chauvinist. Those ladies for whom you hold the door and scold you probably have lots of issues building up inside or they are very immature. Worry not and continue to be the polite human being you are. Oh, and if a lady decides to hold the door for you accept it with the same courtesy.
Men should hold the door for ladies and ladies should hold doors open for men. It is the nice thing to do. I think women are capable of opening and holding doors open but if there are people close behind me I will hold a door open for both women and men. When I was in university there was an awful lot of people holding doors for other people. I even had men and women apologize for not holding the door open for me because they did not realize I was behind them.
I do agree that some of the stuff men did in the past reminds me of the way young children are treated. Men holding doors for women was chauvinistic and it still can be. Courtesy calls for people to hold doors open for other people. Your first sentence does seems a bit chauvinistic to me.
In my opinion you should hold a door open when you happen to be the first one to the door. You should not try to stop a woman from opening or holding a door open and don't open doors that you were not going to use yourself unless the woman has her hands full.
You should absolutely hold the door open for her. And things should be okay.
If she starts right into being able to do it herself, and giving you some, dare I say, extreme feminist point of view, here's what you do. You tell her, "Well, if you can open the door yourself, then you can find a ride home yourself." I'm guessing you probably drove her right.
In that case though, if she started in on you at opening the car door for her, just say it's not worth my time and leave.
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